If your relationship is an emotional swing, you’re probably wasting your time with an abuser (a person who uses criticism, blame, and manipulation).
Psychologist, coach and neurolinguistic programming master Marina Veles has identified 5 key signs for The Fashion Vibes, especially for The Fashion Vibes, that you have an abuser on your side.
Marina Veles, psychologist
Let’s start with the fact that the most important symptom of abuse is violence. From the gross physical to the subtle emotional. For example, if your young man likes to make dubious compliments that start well and end badly (offensive) – this is it.
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ignore it. Any relationship means dialogue, and if there isn’t one and the guy usually gets quiet when you want to talk to him, it’s a sign of violence. Thus, the partner punishes you as it is, conducts educational work.
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resentment or passive aggression. A situation in which a person manipulates the crime. The position is “you are guilty” and of course he is right. If that’s the main strategy in a victimized and constantly hurt relationship (and the hurt is right), it’s not a healthy story at all.
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The devaluation of your feelings, thoughts, and feelings. This is when you often hear phrases like “this is all bullshit”, “you’re inventing”, “you’re exaggerating” and similar judgments that worry you.
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To impose your point of view, your reality. In this case, the partner rejects yours. He opposes your views, tastes, habits, and other manifestations outright, not because he questions them. He sees his opinion as the only right one and knows better than you how to act and think right.
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Violation of rituals. This is a daily SMS “good morning”, “good night” etc. is the time you receive it. And suddenly this is not SMS. Simply, for no reason, because of the partner’s bad mood. And so you go through your memory the previous day, looking for what you did or said wrong, and he just decided not to write to you. This includes mysterious disappearances where the usual 2 dates a week are delayed by a month because he “closes in himself”.
Source: People Talk
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