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Tracey Cox Reveals 30 Ways Women Can Initiate Sex – ALL Men Wish Women Had More of!

Louie

April 20, 2022

“She never asks” remained one of her biggest complaints throughout the three decades she wrote about sex.

It’s not fair to always leave suggesting sex to your partner, but only a quarter of women say they start having sex regularly.

Being an initiator is a burden boys carry as they sit behind the bike shed at school and try to persuade Susie to drop into first base. And it doesn’t stop.

If you’re a woman, NOTHING will make a difference in your sex life more than initiating more frequent sex.

And he’s not the only one benefiting from it.

Being “sexy” makes you feel sexier

Changing the cards to be the only card that suggests the gender instead of rejecting it significantly restores the dynamic.

Tracey Cox suggests that initiating sex can be key to a healthy love life, saying your partner probably misses getting robbed.

When you’re the one asking for sex, you immediately feel sexier, stronger, and in command.

Once accustomed to rejection, your partner will be both surprised and (hopefully) excited. Their egos are getting a much-needed boost – maybe you’re in the mood for them after all? You can enjoy having sex with them! Maybe, just maybe, you want them as much as they want you…

It is beneficial for both of us.

The good news is that getting started is something you can learn, and the more you do, the less anxiety you’ll have.

All you have to do is stick to a few basic principles.

Four things you need to know

First…

Think about why you didn’t start. Is it because you don’t like sex? Is it because you never get a chance to develop sexual hunger (see section ‘I never get a chance to start’)?

Need an honest conversation to work out long-term sexual issues or is it just laziness and a bad habit you learned?

Make sure the movement isn’t that subtle, they’re missing. If your partner isn’t used to getting started, they’re not looking for insights you might want before sex. What seems obvious to you may be misinterpreted by them.

When this happens, the usual reaction is anger. Well, I finally did, and where did that take me? I don’t do it anymore!

Tracey suggests sneaking in sexy lingerie and showing your partner when you’re ready for bed, then put on a pair of heels.

If you’ve tried and haven’t noticed, try some of the more obvious ways to propose sex.

HOW HOT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

Answer “true” or “false” the questions below and be honest rather than hopeful!

· Does one of you constantly start having sex while the other feels pressured?

Do you rarely or never have sexy thoughts or fantasies about your partner?

Lacking touch and physical affection, both outside and in the bedroom?

Do you rarely look forward to having sex?

Do you feel little connection during sex?

· Is sex something you do out of necessity, more than you want?

Does sex seem so routine as if we’re both walking down the aisle?

· Do you avoid sex as much as possible?

Do you have sex less than once a month?

If you get more than five “correct” answers, chances are you’re struggling with a low sex drive. Encouraging sex more often is an effective way to increase your sex drive.

Some couples have an agreed-upon “Sex tonight?” Therefore. Before you come to brush your teeth, do something nice with their toothbrush, like making a “Y” shape for yes.

I highly recommend telling your partner that you want to start more so they know how to take care of an invitation.

Try to start at different times of the day. Most of us have more sexual desire at certain times. If you’re a morning person and go to bed early, waking up in the middle of the night with a ray of hope is not welcome.

Try 7 and you might be lucky.

Same different techniques. Some people like a direct approach, while others are stimulated for longer and prefer a slow buildup.

If you’re nervous, don’t do it face-to-face.

Instead of making personal moves, start sending sexy messages or photos or leave a note. (Many tips below.)

Well, you are ready to take action!

Here are several ways to start having sex, from the simple and discreet enough to the assertive and daring.

Start small and work your way up to scandal!

30 ways to initiate sex: from command to seducing her at traffic lights

Whisper in his ear that you want him. That’s all you have to say, three words. I guarantee it will work!
Submit a photo: a full frontal nudity or a close-up of her favorite body part. Classify by taking black and white or putting an art filter on it.
Text suggestions: Send a message with a sentence describing what to do with it next. Text someone else an hour later and keep going until you meet them at home. Tell her not to say a word – all she has to do is sit back and enjoy effortless sex.
Dress for Sex: Is there anything you like to wear that you don’t like? Now it’s time to take off that very tight and very short dress (even if it’s just for wearing at home).
Wearing (secretly) sexy underwear: It’s one of the most obvious “I’m horny” signs of anyone. To get ready for bed, take off your clothes, show what you’re wearing underneath, and then put on a pair of heels.
Ask for a massage – this is another obvious mating call – everyone knows that massage is just an excuse for sex!
Stroke her thigh as she lies comfortably on the sofa.
Turn off the TV, sit on your lap, start kissing him passionately.
Actually… open some porn and watch with it.
be close to him. Wait for it to come out somewhere and don’t be late, then open it casually, put it in your mouth for two minutes, then stop. No need to remind him what’s on the menu later.
Make a list of things you want to try and drop it on your pillow.
Drop your clothes on the bathroom floor, turn on the shower and ask, “Would you like to come in?” say.
You’ll get more points if you take a bubble bath and text her to meet you in the seductively arranged bathroom.
Let him find you masturbating. Leave the door open, let out a few groans and groans, and pretend to be surprised when he approaches you.
Read a sexy book in bed and let me watch you while you read. Read the positive parts.
Buy the two of you a sex toy as a gift and give it to her when you’ve rested for an hour or two.
Schedule a sex session. Anyone who knows me knows that I am a huge fan of programmed sex. The reflex response is that it removes “spontaneity”. But if you’re a busy or shy couple at first, ask, “Why don’t we have sex on Sunday afternoons?” say it’s a good idea. Waiting can be extremely exciting.
Take advantage of this in the morning. Tell him it would be a shame to waste that morning’s hardening.
Talk about hot sex you’ve had in the past. When you relive good sex, you’ll want it right away.
Get out of the shower and dry seductively.
Sleep naked, especially if you don’t normally sleep. Another unmissable sexual initiator.
Put her on the bed and press her hips. If you’re facing each other, press your hips against his.
Give him a long, sexy kiss. The longer and more languages involved, the clearer the signal. Bite your lower lip for good measure.
Take your hand and put it wherever you want. On her breasts, between her legs. Take your penis. There’s nothing like a direct approach!
Ask openly: “I want sex. What do you think about this topic?”
Don’t put on your panties, take your hand and put it between your legs.
Hear it in public. Pick a restaurant with long tablecloths, open it, and have a discreet but delicious mini-wank (except for the happy ending, of course).
Make an audio recording of a sex session secretly on your phone. Arrange for a minute of the most dramatic groans and groans and send it to him.
Seduce her at the traffic lights. (Secretly) pull up her skirt, take her hand, and place it between your legs or inside your top, running your hands over your breasts and nipples.
Wrap yourself as a gift. You can buy colored non-stick adhesive tapes online. It is a beautiful tube and can be packed and shaped as a mini to match. It can take you layer by layer.

I HAVE NO CHANCE TO START!

If you are constantly being sexually harassed, you have no chance of losing it.

This is called the ‘swing phenomenon’: the more one does, the less the other does. The more often they start having sex, the less often you will do it.

“What are you saying?” I’ve never had the chance to be the only person who said that. it can feel humiliating. If your libido is lower than theirs, you already feel like you’re pushing the limit.

Here’s how to fix it

Start by telling your partner that you miss not being the one to initiate sex. Saying you want the opportunity to do this earns you big points. He’s tired of asking as much as you’re tired of being asked!

To give you a chance to get close to him, make a pact not to have sex for two weeks (or more). Wait and then, around the ninth or tenth day, jump in! Even if your first approach is a bit forced – you’re not really interested, but that might be fine – pretend.

Take the babies to your moms and pick her up when they’re gone, push them to the front door and kiss her pants. Is it her reaction? “He wants me so much. God, he already likes making out with me.’

Seeing her aroused is often enough for your own arousal: many women act not spontaneously but out of “reactive desire.” At first they don’t want to have sex but once they start they become very horny.

Do you want to try something new? Check out the two Tracey ranges at traceycox.com. On her weekly podcast, SexTok, you’ll hear practical advice on how to be more sexually confident.

Source: Daily Mail