Most people know that women can take a lot longer to cum than men (or at least they should already know).

And some people may even have a hard time reaching orgasm.

According to recent research by Pleasure Better81.6% of women fail to reach orgasm through sexual intercourse alone.

Essentially, this means that they need a good deal of clitoral stimulation to really get the juices flowing.

Furthermore, only 18.4% of women said that intercourse alone was enough to reach orgasm.

Between 5% and 10% of women also said they have never had an orgasm.

A few years ago, Alix Fox, a sex and relationship expert at Durex, he told HuffPost UK:: “I talk to many women who think they can’t reach orgasm, or can’t reach it using only their fingers (only a vibrator)”.

Many people can struggle to reach that sweet spot no matter how exciting or fun their sex life may be.

But what some people may not know is that there are some things that can also interfere with achieving orgasm.

Here are some things that may be holding you back.



The man whispers in the woman's ear

speed up the process

Life is busy, there is so much to do, and sometimes sex can seem like just another thing you want to check off your to-do list.

But, if you allow it to slip down your priority list, there’s a chance it’s not sexually rewarding.

Everyone has tried a quickie, but hasty sex may not satisfy you.

Sex experts once stated that it takes up to 20 minutes of repetitive stimulation to reach orgasm.

Some can take even more than half an hour to arrive, so it’s worth it.

If your mind is elsewhere

If you let your mind wander to other worries and problems, you probably won’t make it to the Big O.

I mean, nothing is more unpleasant than stress.

Sex is letting go, and the more you let go of your thoughts, the better the experience will be.

stress and worry

If your mind is already doing flips, you will only do them more if you have a hard time reaching orgasm.

You may start wondering why you can’t get there, and that won’t help.

This can quickly turn into a bad cycle of bad sex that just won’t satisfy you.

So stop thinking about getting there and enjoy the ride.



The woman looks frustrated at home

mental blocks

If you are a woman who has had trouble coming before, you will know that this can affect your confidence levels.

This can make it more difficult to enjoy the experience next time.

Eve Fifer, who worked as a sex toy manager at Ann Summers, told HuffPost UK: “Once you’ve struggled to orgasm, you’ll likely be constantly playing with your mind and wondering if you’re going to make it or not. .. “. The edge, you’re actually holding it.

“You get stuck.”

Worry about your bedroom skills

As you should know by now, orgasms are not physical and female orgasms can also be related to how women feel about themselves.

If you are concerned about how you look, how good you are in bed, or if you are doing things the “right” way, these things could cause you to develop a mental block.

To get the most out of your sex life, go with an open (and empty) mind.

If you find sex painful

Some people may also experience pain during sex, which is called dyspareunia.

This can be caused by vaginismus, which is when the muscles in or around the vagina go into a spasm.

This can make sex painful and sometimes even eliminate it altogether.

Reports indicate that it can also happen if the woman associates sex with ideas associated with pain or “mistake”.



Frustrated couple in bed

Menopause and its side effects

Sometimes physical changes can also cause problems with orgasm, and this includes menopause.

Menopause can cause a woman’s libido to plummet, and as a result, some women may crave those moments of passion a lot less.

relationship problems

While it’s not always the root cause, you can’t deny that if there are problems in your relationship, there are probably problems in the bedroom.

The SSN says so that sometimes problems can be related to the person you’re sleeping with, so problems aren’t always personal.

Sometimes people can have a hard time telling their partner what they want or need in a relationship.

On the other hand, if you feel miserable or start to think that time between the sheets is getting pretty boring, then you need a different kind of conversation.

It is important to talk about it in order to try to find a solution.