One woman sparked an argument over the question, “Have we exaggerated the idea of motherhood as young women?”
Writing on the UK parenting forum, the mother explained that although she loves her two children, she isn’t sure that the “rewards” of having children that she’s always been told are not necessarily true.
She thinks “deeply” about her feelings about motherhood and “is it worth it?” She said she was wondering.
Reactions to the post were split between “pretty shitty job” and “incredibly challenging”, as many agreed, with others revealing that motherhood was the “best” thing they’ve ever done.
One woman sparked an interesting discussion about motherhood after she asked, “Have we exaggerated the idea of motherhood as young women” (stock image)
The mother said she loved herself, loved her children, but also “deeply” loved her husband and “cannot imagine life without him”, but admitted that it was “a different kind of love”.
She wrote: “Maybe I slept late and drank too much red wine, but tonight I was really thinking about how I really felt about being a mom.
‘I love my two children, there is no question about it. But I wonder, have we, as girls and young women, sold out on the idea of motherhood?’
One person replied and said: This is such a shitty business. However, my kids are awesome” encourages the poster to reply: “My kids are awesome too. I was really lucky with them.
Writing on British parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that although she loves her two children, she has been told about “awards” and isn’t sure if they are true.
One person said it was such a crappy business. But my kids are awesome, encouraging the poster to say that their kids are awesome too and “really lucky with them”.
“But before I had kids, I was told a lot about awards, about the greatest of loves, about how precious it is, about how it shows you the deeper meaning of your life…
“And I’m not sure that’s true. I love my kids very much, but I love my wife very much and I can’t imagine life without her. Still, it’s clearly a different kind of love.
Numerous comments on the subject agreed that being a mom can be overwhelming, and one mom admitted that it’s “like setting your old life on fire and watching it burn.”
She said: “I love my daughter and I love being a mom (especially now – teenagers are actually pretty fun).
A number of comments on the subject agreed that being a mom can be overwhelming, and one mom agreed that it was “like setting your old life on fire and watching it burn.”
“But having a baby is like setting your old life on fire and watching it burn.
“Keep in mind that if you are too attached to your current life, most of it will disappear and they will not be quite the same even if they come back gradually over a few years.
“I had a 35-year-old daughter, but even then she was shocked. I don’t know if you can truly appreciate it without experiencing it. It changes you so profoundly; and you may not always feel that it is in a good way.
While other women say having kids is “the best thing I’ve ever done”, others agree.
Another loving mother who waited until she was 45 to have children said she wanted to have another one.
Another mom even admitted to postponing her pregnancy after being “brutally honest” about motherhood to her friends.
She said: “I love my children and being a mother, but I agree that as we grow older we are not really told the truth of birth and child-rearing.
“I’m brutally honest with people about what it’s like, and some people have said that I put them off having kids.
“If people were honest with me about the reality of parenting, I would still do it, but in some ways I feel like I’d be better prepared (not getting that ‘love rush’ at birth and struggling to bond for a while).
Some women have taken a very honest view of motherhood, saying that although they love their children, it has had a huge impact on their finances, relationships, and mental health.
A mother of three said none of her children were planned and nearly died in childbirth.
“Of course I love my kids, but that wasn’t what I had specifically planned or wanted, but I was lucky, we had the money to get a nanny, and I got back to work as soon as possible,” she said.
“I’m not sure motherhood is oversold, but I don’t think that’s all. There is more to life than having children.
Another added: ‘It’s been almost 30 years and I haven’t finished it yet because it never stops, even as an adult. I lost a lot of self-respect, old hobbies, and old friends along the way. ”
But other women also admitted that having children was “the best thing I’ve ever done.”
Including a mother who waited until she was 45 to have a child and wished for more.
He explained: ‘I wasn’t oversold there. My mom said for 30 years it was a chore and a waste of her life. (Even though he did it five times!)
Some women agreed that motherhood was “oversold” for them, but others said it “seemed natural” to want children.
“I finally had an only child when I was 45 and I love it. The absolute best for me and the best of creativity is to be a kind, happy and tolerant person.
“I’ve had a career of 40 years and I know I’m lucky, but I would like to have another child.”
Another mother said, ‘No, I disagree. I think this is the best thing I’ve ever done.
“It helps me to be between 30 and 40 when I have DDS. I’ve already traveled and worked a lot, so I haven’t given up on anything.
“It’s definitely a lot of work, but still extremely rewarding.”
And another woman wished she had more children after she was told it would “destroy her life”.
Some women pointed out that the dangers of childbirth were “exhausted,” saying many women were dying.
Source: Daily Mail
