5 misconceptions about female sexuality

Sexuality remains a taboo topic even now – in 2023, when all frameworks have been removed and it seems you can talk openly about it. Everyone wants to be sexy, but a distorted understanding of how it manifests does not allow girls to discover this attractiveness within themselves.

In this article, female self-esteem and kinetics expert and The Fashion Vibes columnist Evgenia Ivanova talked about the most popular misconceptions that prevent a girl from revealing her sexuality and feeling strong and confident.

“I collected all the stereotypes of anti-sexuality within myself: I grew up a “tomboy,” I didn’t meet beauty standards, and after a spine fracture, I had a chance to get more sympathy than sexual sighs. And now I’m 36, I feel sexy as can be. But myths are made to be destroyed. I managed to do this by my own example and I am ready to prove to you that every girl can pump her sexuality.

Evgenia Ivanova, specialist in female self-esteem and kinetics

Myth 1. Sex is about looks.

This myth has been spawned by mass culture, advertising and social media, where outward appearances are given great importance and individuality and inner qualities are devalued.

We all know that they are “met by clothes”. However, to evaluate sexual attractiveness only from this point of view would be to reduce this concept to physical criteria only. In fact, much more is hidden in sexuality.

Argument: sexuality is multifaceted.

Intrinsic qualities such as confidence, intelligence, and a sense of humor are very important. Let’s remember Keanu Reeves’ girlfriend. A man who dreams of millions chooses a girl who does not dye her hair, is versed in art and has a charming smile. Confidence radiates power and attracts attention. Intelligence allows you to maintain interesting and rich conversations. But the most important factor is originality. It makes sexuality deeper and richer. Being able to express your passions, values ​​and passions is what creates a real bond and attraction.

In 2018, a group of Australian scientists conducted a study to find out which traits are sexually attractive to the opposite sex. Among the obvious factors – appearance and age, study participants noted intelligence, education level, income, openness and emotionality.

Myth 2. Sexuality is hidden in clothes and make-up.

Again, the influence of popular culture – stylization and visual images, constitutes the view that clothing and make-up are the main components of attractiveness. From our childhood, we learn the images of models and heroines that attract men with the help of deep necklines, minis and tight dresses. We have become accustomed to the fact that sexuality is a provocation, a demonstration of the body. But is it?

Argument: clothes and makeup are just the tip of the iceberg.

This illusion ignores the versatility of attractiveness: what about confidence and individuality? Think of the girls you think are sexy. I am sure you can find among them those who wear sports hoodies and prefer loose clothing, but also radiate incredible energy.

Clothing and makeup can really help express one’s personality. But it’s not the only way. Self-esteem, self-esteem, and confidence are key factors that affect how a woman perceives and expresses her sexuality. When a woman appreciates and loves her body, this is felt in her behavior, in the way she communicates.

Myth 3. Sex is bad and dangerous.

This attitude is a result of being brought up in the “must be a good girl” category. After all, good girls do not contradict adults, do not use profanity and … do not want sex. These beliefs persist into adulthood and interfere with relationships with a man. Sexuality is perceived as something bad, wrong, and therefore it is better to hide all this under long skirts and button-up shirts.

It seems that by wearing a short skirt, you will fall victim to someone’s evil thoughts and actions. Therefore, it is better to wear trousers than skirts. And if the skirt, then to the floor. And then the girls choose a strategy – to be gray and inconspicuous, not stand out in the crowd, be part of the cityscape.

Argument: sex is power

Sexuality is not a weakness as it seems. This is an opportunity to enjoy life and yourself. Without forced frameworks and installations. Laugh when it’s funny, get sad when you want; wear whatever you want. When we live in pleasure, allow ourselves to manifest, life itself returns to us with a sunny side: it gives energy, strength, opens up new opportunities for self-realization.

Myth 4. Sexuality is innate.

Sexuality is considered a feature that cannot be developed in itself, it either exists or it does not. You won’t fix anything. Familiar? In practice, this belief is very common.

Biology plays a role in shaping sexual attraction. Hormones, genetics, and physical aspects can affect how we perceive each other sexually. But that’s not all.

Argument: sexuality can be improved.

Cultural norms, values, stereotypes and expectations instilled by society affect how we perceive each other. Our previous relationships, beliefs, life events, all shape our sexual identity. Fortunately, now a negative experience can be resolved with a psychologist or even on your own.

Sexuality can be developed at any age. All people have the same basic settings, so you should not be afraid of missing something. Only sexuality and its manifestations are different. It can also be controlled – can be turned on or off on request. And I’m not talking about socks and red lipstick on a date. Before we even open our mouths, our body speaks for us and signals are read by the oldest “reptilian” brain. Someone has this knowledge intuitively, someone deliberately masters kinetics – body science and signals.

Myth 5. Youth is the only factor in sexual attraction

Youth is associated with physical freshness, strength and fertility, but not limited to attractiveness. Maturity brings personality and experience. Over the years comes a deep understanding of yourself, your needs and desires, allowing you to express your sexuality more confidently and consciously.

Argument: age brings awareness.

Mature women are safer, smarter, more experienced – many men are attracted to this. These traits can have a significant impact on how a woman is perceived by others.

Studies show that sexuality peaks around age 30.

Until then, our ideas about sexuality were based on patterns drawn from TV shows, movies, and other people’s behavior. Then there is awareness, self-understanding, the physiology and psychology of the person. Most women play it sexy but it really blooms in their thirties.

Also, beauty in maturity is no less attractive. Many women over the age of 40 and 50 retain their beauty and radiate passion and grace. Look at J. Lo, Salma Hayek or Jennifer Aniston – who can say these women aren’t sexy? Physical traits may change over time, but the depth of outgoing energy and passion remains attractive to others. And the real magic lies in the fact that we can control our impressions of ourselves, including the perception of our age. With the help of kinetics, we can make our silhouette look younger and therefore more fertile.

Kinetics is something that will help improve sexuality, even if you think you’re not naturally gifted.

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All these stereotypes limit our natural nature, prevent us from being ourselves and showing ourselves in this world. Sexuality is as natural as femininity, smooth movements and tenderness of the hands. Self-acceptance and self-love are key factors that determine our attractiveness.

Every woman is unique – let this attitude penetrate you. Remember that true appeal comes from your originality and freedom to be yourself.