My friends always want to do activities that cost a blind, but I’m broke. HELP!

Daronne is the queen of not-so-stupid advice wrapped in a touch of more or less subtle humor. Here she is back to save a reader!

The question for the daronne

Dear Daronne,

My best friends earn a lot better than me and I can’t keep up. Restaurants, holidays, trips, who can afford all this? Not me anyway. I don’t know what to do, I’m afraid of looking like a party pooper.

What do you think ?

Emma

The answer of the daronne

My little faux fur coat,

The good thing when we were young was that we were all poor. We were all smoking sandwiches while drinking a warm village girl and that was it. Personally I am happy to have been able to live my youth life to the fullest, but I am also happy that it is over, because the villager is disgusting and at this price you might as well drink water.

Also, every time I smoke an unfortunate industrial cigarette I get white angina, so I might as well tell you that with the rolls I would no longer have a throat.

Then life, the tortuous paths of existence, the pebbles in the shoes, the distortions after tripping over a root, the ideas of the century, the strokes of genius, the bad projects, the long wordy studies or the garage streets, the promotions, management changes and we are all in different financial situations.

What seems affordable to one is inaccessible to another.

Not to mention that even admitting we have money, there are many things we don’t want to do, because they don’t correspond to our values ​​and the consumer society is fed up with it.

EVERYTHING TO SAY: We don’t all earn the same and that’s okay, but suddenly it’s better to communicate on the subject as responsible adults that we are.

Having no money, it’s not a shame (still happy, right?)

I think that already, since you don’t have the money to put the caviar on the table, you might as well put the subject there, on the table (what a fantastic joke!). Money is often a taboo subject and your friends may not know how hard it is for you to keep up with it.

If we have to stop with this dictatorship of money (doesn’t it sound like a Damien Saez title?), We have to talk about it openly and without shame.

Your friends may not have a clear idea of ​​your financial situation and assume you have the means to follow suit. And perhaps, furthermore, that if one of your group members dared to complain about the exorbitant prices of your activities, others would admit that they too would like us to stop throwing their $ 50 bills into the air and make them fly away like pretty butterflies.

Solutions exist, as always

Sure, there are solutions. If only because everything big on earth doesn’t have to be paid for, contrary to what Instagram sponsored ads would have you believe. An afternoon in the park, a night in an apartment, a stroll around town, cool-friendly options are plentiful.

Nobody is forcing your rich friends to stop their rich businesses, but I personally encourage them to alternate with affordable hobbies that allow them to hang out with their less fortunate loved ones, because after all, what’s the point of having tickets if not one with to have fun? Good for blowing our noses.

I’ll tell you right away: you will have to make concessions and agree not to spend (anymore?) All your time together. The goal is not for your friends to stop all their madness, nor for you to feed on just your trimmed nails to make up for your friendly expenses.

The ideal will be to find a middle ground and toggle enough so that everyone can find their account. This means that you will not be able to do everything together. I don’t think it is very serious since you are no longer 12 years old and now everyone can survive without their group of friends and take advantage of this time away from each other to, for example, meet other people and broaden their horizons.

My friends don’t want to fit in with these fat BIIIPs

It is possible that your friends will refuse to fit in and continue to systematically import a full drain of your PEL, but then, I want to ask you: Are people who systematically prefer their bifton to the presence of a close friend really friends? Rhetorical question huh. The answer is no ! Booooo! What a bunch of assholes!

As stated in my previous paragraph, no one is asking them to give up their way of life. And you can’t expect them to give up all their expensive activities or vacations just because you can’t participate. But refusing to make concessions, for one’s material well-being, is, in my opinion, proof that the term friendship no longer really applies to the current relationship.

Come on, I’ll leave you, gotta throw down a garden party at the National Assembly, got a parliamentary assistant friend,

The bisetta

Your daronne

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