Are you an unaware “pushy” parent?

Helicopter parent, almond parent, hummingbird parent… there are as many parenting styles as there are parents. Madmoizelle doesn’t really like labels, but it’s clear that we can recognize ourselves in some characteristics attributed to these parents. I recently discovered the “intrusive parents”, OR intrusive parentsIt’s not a new concept, but it caught my attention.

It’s normal to want our children succeed and most parents go to great lengths to achieve this goal. But When do we push the limits? And let’s go to one supportive parent to a pushy parent? “Parents who push often have good intentions and sincerely believe that their efforts will benefit their children’s future success.”explains Dr. Kalanit Ben-Ari, family therapist, interviewed by The independent. Problem: If this involvement becomes too large, it can affect the child’s self-confidence. Since he no longer has the space to express himself, all that matters is achieving the goals set by his parents.

“Intrusive” parents: what are the signs to pay attention to?

• You don’t listen to what your child wants
  You spend more time talking to your child than listening to him.
• You (you) and he set unrealistic goals
  You enroll your child in a soccer class, believing he can become a professional soccer player, even though you know he’s not good at soccer.
• You enter him into numerous competitions and auditions
• You are very critical of him
• Your child is anxious and emotional
  Parental pressure can put children in difficulty.
• You are upset by your child’s failure, you almost wish others would fail too
  Pushy parents may have a distorted perception of what failure really is.
• Live your dreams through your child

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