Musical compatibility with a partner is rare, but we continue to search for it. For some reason we tend to find connections and patterns in everything, and songs are no exception. We have previously written that your favorite music speaks about your character, now we invite you to find out how our musical preferences and types of attachment are connected.
Secure connection type
People with a secure attachment type are in harmony with both themselves and others. They build relationships on mutual sympathy. They truly know how to love, care, trust, and show emotions. They are believed to be the easiest people to establish healthy relationships due to their high adaptability. According to a study by sociologists published in the journal Personal Relationships, such people often listen to song lyrics instead of listening to background music to calm themselves. They like classical, folk, soft rock, pop rock, surf music, jazz and blues the most. Your favorite artists include Erik Satie, Cher, Whitney Houston, The Beatles, Ed Sheeran, John Legend, Michael Bublé, Beach Boys, Bryan Adams, Justin Bieber.
Anxious attachment type
Anxious attachment types fear rejection the most, so they always seek reassurance in relationships. When they were children, their parents often left them alone, so they felt betrayed. At the same time, they were happy when mom or dad returned to them, but resentment was mixed in with the emotions. They find solace in melancholic music because the world seems changeable and unstable to them. In the playlists, you can find compositions in the spirit of visual kei, symphonic and gothic metal, R’n’B, soul, funk and alternative rock. For example, Adele, The Police, Miley Cyrus, U2, Bruno Mars, Drake, Evanescence.
Avoidant attachment type
A person with an avoidant attachment style appears as a strong and independent person. As a child, he had no significant adult or authority figure to turn to in difficult times. Therefore, he got used to not complaining and solving all problems on his own. He doesn’t know how to ask for help even if he needs it. Because he avoids his emotions, he has difficulty establishing emotional and trusting relationships. They often wait for someone to set them up or cause them pain. Because of negative expectations, it is easier for them to listen to music that does not touch their hearts. For example, they listen to rap and pop music more often than others. You can find Eminem, Beyoncé, Chris Brown, N’Sync, Michael Jackson, Rihanna, The Weeknd among your favorite artists.
Anxious-avoidant attachment type
This type combines symptoms of anxious and avoidant behavior. Such people are distinguished by contradictory behavior. On the one hand, they want closeness and strive for it, on the other hand, they avoid the object of sympathy because they are afraid that their feelings will not be mutual. This makes it difficult for them to form relationships. Therefore, there are many music lovers among them who listen to hip-hop and pop music, but also love to cry to classical and instrumental music. Playlists include Rachmaninov and Lana Del Rey.
Source: People Talk
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