I think the worst thing anyone has said to me in bed so far was:
“ Do you feel it? »
Talking during sex isn’t easy
I found this as good as naughty porn in the campsite. It made me even colder because the answer was “ Not really no “.
But I preferred to act as if I hadn’t heard anything, swallowing my discomfort with this question and preserving its author’s pride. An anecdote that reminds me that sometimes it’s better to remain silent during sex.
When we feel embarrassed about speaking, it’s often because we don’t know what to say (see myself in the previous example). There, the words get trapped in the ductor it completely abandons the brain, the throat is dry and, in the worst case, anesthetizes any impulse to fornication.
Furthermore, there is no obligation to open up and the propensity to chat during the act does not allow you to judge someone’s level of pleasure or open-mindedness in advance.
Conversely, there is no shame in believing this a few sweet or raw wordsspoken or heard, it can be exciting. The point of this kind of talk is that it’s sincere, right? Sexual chemistry between two (or more) people responds very positively to honesty and naturalness. I believe that this principle can be extended to any type of human relationship, but that is another matter.
I therefore advise you not to use the examples in this article literally, without sincerely experiencing their meaning, because simulation does not advance the cause of shared pleasure in bed.
Here without further ado a non-exhaustive glossary of the different ways of expressing one’s pleasure to excite you and/or excite you and your partners!
To say ” I love » for the first time during sexual intercourse can be risky.
Whisper your partner’s name during the act
Not bad to start with oral sex. A word, or two at most… Whispering in your ear or moaning loudlydepending on the mood.
Implicit:
“OH [insérer prénom], it’s only you that matters right now because only you have this effect on me. »
It also allows make sure you don’t think about anyone else. Unless it’s someone with the same name, of course.
Unpack a ” I love » during sex
OR :
” I love you “
OR :
“I really like you, you know? »
A universal ego booster.
To say ” I love » for the first time during sex it can be risky. But if the ad is received positively, you could have one of the best sex sessions of your life. Love is beautiful.
Give compliments during sex
A little boost in self-confidence makes it easier to let go and get absorbed in the moment. It is therefore It’s always nice to be reassured about your body at a time of such vulnerability.
So you can start with the physical! It’s a classic.
“You are beautiful / You are beautiful”
Possible variations:
“You are beautiful/beautiful when you are excited/when you have fun…”
“You’re so sexy.”
“You smell so good”
“I like seeing you like this (implicit in this position and/or in this state)”
” I adore [insérer ici la partie de son corps dont vous aimeriez un moulage dans le salon] »
Express love for the other sex it might even be a good idea. This is one of the rare opportunities to compliment someone on their genitals, let’s take advantage of it.
Examples:
“You’re so hard/wet”
“I love (the taste of) your pussy/cock”
You can too compliment your partner’s actions! Encouragement is always welcome when something is successful.
Example :
“Continue exactly like this.” »
“I like it when you/how you are [verbe] my my [partie du corps]. »
“This is crazy/so good/incredibly delicious what you’re making.” »
“You’re going to make me come.” »
Express your feelings
Except for primary selfishness, you want it know what the other person likes. To do it to him, as often as possible. Well, it’s the same for that other one, in fact, who still doesn’t read your mind.
On the side of those who share their feelings, verbalizing sensations directs attention to them and stimulates pleasure. If everyone does a little, life wins.
Examples:
“I’m too wet/hard. »
“I’m so excited.”
“It feels so good/It makes me feel so good when you do that.” »
“I love making love to you/feeling your glans/entering you/sucking you…”
“I can not stand it anymore. »
“I’m coming.” »
Did you understand.
Before defining your partner as a lascivious dog, it is therefore good to make sure that it is his delirium.
Swearing during sex
Desecrating dirt is a turn on for some people. But swear words and insults it can also be a real game changer for others. Gross words will hit both a very clinical register (testicles, penis, vagina, etc.) and less harsh language (balls, cock, pussy, etc.).
Some will like it be called” slut ” OR ” whore » to play a game of submissionwhile for others it will be NO THANKS WE WILL NEVER SEE AGAIN.
Before defining your partner as a lascivious dog, it is therefore good to do so I assure you it is his illusion and of the limit to which one’s sensitivity can be shaken. A conversation to be had preferably outside of a sexual context.
As for style, I leave you master of syntax and vocabulary with one piece of advice: stay close to what is natural for you. For example, I would avoid it” I will destroy you, villain » if in life you say Wednesday instead of shit.
Emotional and raw words can express:
- What you want to do to the other person and what you want the other person to do to you, with details on the intensity and level of perversion if necessary
- How much the other turns you on
- To what extent you/what part of your body belongs to him
A non-exhaustive list, I repeat!
After all, what are the phrases that make you melt and the ones that make you flee?
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