Using dating sites is no longer a taboo and it is often a good thing: the topic is now addressed in an uninhibited manner, articles on the topic follow one another and I can no longer count the number of friends who have met their better half on Meetic, Tinder, Happn or OkCupid.
It’s great for users… And much less so for those who resist.
What should I do if I don’t like dating apps?
Yes, I’m talking about all people here who don’t like to use this type of application. I also think of my friends who have this strange feeling of having” too » have used these platforms and want to find spontaneity by meeting people in real life.
Yet it can get stuck at that moment. BAM. And AdottaUnMec is very simple… And then meeting people directly in the ” real life » in 3D and with all the senses available, you can it just looks scary.
When I panic, I tell myself that our parents managed to survive without the Internet, so we should be able to, too. And then, let’s not say that the Vintage ▾ it’s trendy?
So if you are wondering how and where to meet people” like old times », here are four simple solutions to achieve this goal!
To meet new people… Be open to meeting new people!
We often hear that we find love when we least expect it. Above all, I tell myself that this expression is false and is an easy way to respond to a friend who complains about being single.
In fact, I am rather guided by a completely different mantra in my life. feel good : luck happens.
This means thatstatistically we are more likely to meet nice people when we leave home that having evenings Netflix and relax with his cat and his glass of sweet cider (or raw, we’re crazy!).
There are people everywhere. Among neighbors, shopkeepers, friends, companions, colleagues or simply strangers on the street, we spend our time meeting people. And this is where it is important to stay open.
I remember trying when I was 18 a challenge: talking to a new stranger every day. At first I thought it was impossible, but then I realized that by seeking interactions I could connect very easily with people who were also open.
I talked to a stranger on the bus, another woman waiting on a bench, guys returning from parties… In short, with a whole series of people who until then I had been content to ignore.
So don’t be afraid and start the discussions. This will make you more likeable and allow you to meet more people, feel more comfortable socially and therefore to feel more comfortable the day you meet someone you really like.
In Friends all the characters end up clashing… Coincidence? I do not think so…
In summary :
- Pay a little more attention than usual to the people you meet.
- Smile.
- Start slow conversations again, don’t run away at the slightest emptiness.
- Build a strong social network
- Grow up, it’s always nice to have happy people around!
Use your pre-existing social network to meet new people
A simple solution to meeting people, especially romantic ones, is to simply rely on yourself on the knowledge you already have: friends, classmates or even colleagues. You could tell me: but I already know these people and they don’t attract me…
I will simply answer you: think in a tree structure. Each of these people has external knowledge and my friends’ friends are my friends… Or even why not, lovers !
In short, consider your connections as levers towards even more meetings.
Here are some simple ideas to get you to this point:
- Ask your friends to invite you out for drinks with friends you don’t know
- Throw a party where each guest is required to bring a stranger
- When you’re invited to a party where you don’t know anyone: go (and be open!)
- Suggest your friends meet in bars or clubs: sometimes it’s less pleasant to talk… But you can meet a lot of people there!
That’s how a friend who was coming off a painful breakup managed to meet a lot of people without too much get out of your comfort zone…And the good news, consequently, allowed him to meet a nice flirtation that lasted a few months!
Well done Soso!
Attend organized group meetings to meet new people
If your friends gravitate into spheres you don’t like, or if you simply want to get out of your bubble, there are other solutions.
The most convenient thing is to join Organized group meetings. The principle is simple: a meeting place and time is given and those interested in going out meet there.
The advantages are multiple: since the group is unknown, everyone is forced to mix with everyone else and we can meet people from very different backgrounds. Finally, it can allow you to go out to places you wouldn’t usually go with your loved ones.
These events are generally not made for sex… But let’s be honest, I have met many couples who have met this way and have been going on for several years already.
Where to find this type of event:
- Su Va Sortir is an offer of the site friendly encounters of all kinds in most major French cities.
- Internationally, the CouchSurfing community offers similar events in a large number of cities around the world. In most cases there is also a Facebook page dedicated to regional events. Small advantage: if you want to practice your languages, there are many international people.
- On Facebook, regional groups post ads for this same type of grouping. In Paris, for example, there is the group “ I wanted to go out » which has no less than 30,000 members!
Carry out a sporting/artistic activity in a club and meet new people
A good solution to expand your social network is also to take sports lessons or artistic activity in a club.
This does two things. The first is to have fun and improve in practice. The second is to meet people who share at least this activity with you. This is already what we have in common!
In short, it’s an easy solution to get started in a group where you don’t know anyone. And if you don’t want to commit for several months you can always turn to internships that last only a weekend or a week.
Finding love doesn’t have to be a complicated quest
Meeting people doesn’t have to be very complicated.. I know how impressive or impossible this may sound in principle, but there are almost always solutions.
Especially, if you are (like me in the past) crazy about the idea of preparing a ravioli on which your friends will judge you for the rest of your days, don’t worry: if everything goes well, people will forget. And yes, sorry, the world doesn’t just revolve around you!
What really matters, It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being yourself!
This is the most important thing.
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Source: Madmoizelle
Mary Crossley is an author at “The Fashion Vibes”. She is a seasoned journalist who is dedicated to delivering the latest news to her readers. With a keen sense of what’s important, Mary covers a wide range of topics, from politics to lifestyle and everything in between.
