This simple phrase could help calm children’s (and parents’) anger.

If you have kids, you know how they can sometimes make us lose our minds, literally. Faced with a child who refuses to obey, who screams, doesn’t listen, throws himself on the ground, hits and screams, we can find ourselves like a chicken faced with a knife, and/or go crazy with anger.

But while these episodes can be extremely difficult to deal with emotionally (and physically) for all parties involved, there is a simple phrase that might help you take a small step back and redefine boundaries.

Anger management in children (and their parents)

This phrase is Erin Morrison, mother of two, who shares it in a video on her Instagram account. She explains that she uses it to calm the escalation of violence on both sides, between her children and at home:

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You can be angry, but you can’t be mean.

This phrase, to be repeated incessantly, a bit like a mantra, would do two things:

• Remind the parent (and child) that they can be angry, but not mean.
• Show the child how to approach a situation calmly, without malice.

Saying this phrase every time the situation boils over would allow us to redefine the limits: yes, we can be angry, yes, we can say it, yes, feelings and feelings can be expressed, but you don’t hit, you don’t say words that hurt, we don’t hurt others. Bottom line: You can be angry, but not mean.

As Erin Morrison rightly says in the caption of her video:

I think that sometimes adults need to hear this phrase more than children, because after all they learn everything from us.

We know it, ” Guys, it’s about doing what I do, not about doing what I want, much less doing what I say “. Giving an example, indicating the way, the path, the attitude to copy, to follow, the one that is most acceptable and that hurts others the least, is not easy. It is tiring, exhausting, it calls into question everything that we parents we are However, sometimes, a simple phrase like the one uttered by Erin Morrison can help put things in order and calm things down.

It may seem naive, because when you are faced with yet another emotional storm from your child, everything seems in vain and insurmountable. Yes, sometimes we can have the impression that everything is beyond our possibilities, that things are going so far that returning to calm is impossible. But this phrase, however simple, can help. It will not prevent or calm the storm, that is not the goal. But it will help you put things in perspective, take a step back, smooth things over and wait for things to pass and respect the person in front of you.

Come on Daronnes, courage!

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