A leading dating expert and matchmaker explained in one sentence that singles should stop saying if they want to find their perfect match.
Louanne Ward of Perth, Western Australia, shared a video online explaining why men and women should avoid saying “I have no expectations”.
He said that statement was “a bit of a lie” and an “orange flag” on the way out.
“These little expressions people make and how they’re perceived may differ from what you actually mean,” he said in the video.
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Louanne Ward (pictured) from Perth, Western Australia, shared a video online explaining why singles shouldn’t tell others they “have no expectations”.
“These little expressions people make and how they are perceived may differ from what you actually mean,” Ms Ward said in a video on Facebook.
On Facebook, Ward wondered if it was possible for someone to date someone without any expectation and if there was a “hidden meaning” that could be an “orange flag”.
“These little lies aren’t big red flags, but they’re definitely orange flags and can give you an idea of where your date is emotionally and if they’re wasting your time,” she said.
Especially with online dating, singles often have the slightest expectation that their date will look exactly like in their photo, be who they say they are, and arrive on time for the first date.
‘If you’re hearing this, it probably means ‘I’ve been rejected many times’. [and] “I have no hope that it will work,” he said.
“You’re dealing with someone who’s probably on a pretty tired date and it’s never been this fun.”
He also warns that your date may not have any intention of wanting a relationship.
In the comments, other singles had mixed opinions about Ms. Ward’s advice.
‘We are meeting to connect with someone! For me it is an expectation, otherwise you could be labeled as an actor,” one man wrote.
But Miss Ward said, “Half the joy of meeting someone new is the expectation that it can work!” she replied.
Another person said, “It depends on what stage you’re dating. First date I think it would be unrealistic to expect more than just having fun and being interested in getting to know each other.’
“I totally agree, and the expectation to have fun, be respected, and take advantage of new opportunities makes expectations positive and realistic,” Ward said. said.
Especially with online dating, singles often have the slightest expectation that their date will look exactly like in their photo, be who they say they are, and arrive on time for the first date (archive image)
Earlier this month, in another video, Ms. Ward explained the five most common words single women should stop chasing if they want to be in a relationship.
Whenever you say, ‘I don’t need a man,’ you’re pulling out exactly what you’re pulling back,” she said.
Ms Ward said most men “automatically begin to lose interest” when they hear these words.
Claiming is often common among independent, confident and successful women.
‘That’s right, you don’t need a man; You earn your money, you can make a living, you have a life, you are happy.
“You may not need a man, but you really do need everything a man can give you: affection, support, love, laughter, sex, care.”
Ms Ward called the statement “ridiculous to say” because “there is no shame” in needing a man to meet her needs.
“You may not need a man, but you really need everything a man can give you: affection, support, love, laughter, sex, care,” Ms Ward said.
“You really need him for everything he can give you,” she said.
She begins to be brave enough to say, “Actually, I need a man for what I can’t give myself.”
“There is no shame in needing, it is very different from being needy.”
The video received a lot of attention online, and many accepted Ms. Ward’s advice.
“You said it very well,” one person wrote, while another added: “Yes, it applies to the opposite sex as well. We all need the same things.
A third added, “You actually need more masculine energy from a man.”
Source: Daily Mail
