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About love, life, people, relationships, fears, courage, difficulties, happiness. And… about you. Especially now, when each of us needs support so badly!
Nika Nabokova, The Fashion Vibes columnist, author and director of psychological services
After the exchange rate, brands, and fast food, many of us now sadly take a flight into the unknown. Connections are broken, hearts are broken, and a new stress is added to the already serious stress.
Old problems resurface like a well-known substance in the spring. Someone is closed, someone is in conflict, there is urine, and someone who cannot stand the heat and stress makes hasty decisions.
Here are 10 rules that will help at least a little, but protect relationships from stress.
Rule One
Do not make any important decisions until the situation and condition have stabilized.
Rule Two
Manage your own worries and concerns. Do not throw them at your partner.
It is possible to share. It is impossible to strangle a person by demanding that he “fix” you.
Rule Three
Avoid sensitive topics. If you have different views on the situation, including discussing what happened.
Rule Four
Practice rituals for two. In general, rituals in a relationship are always good and beneficial. But now especially. If you already own them, don’t give up on them. If not, it’s time to show up, try, roll out. Walking before bed, drinking tea, doing joint sports, but at least collecting jigsaw puzzles or having evening conversations by candlelight.
Fifth Rule
Home is a place to reset.
If you need to clarify controversial issues – do it outside of the house.
Acknowledge that you did not conflict at home, did not learn anything, but through joint efforts you protect the atmosphere from everything that shakes and is bad.
rule six
support each other. Kind words, hugs, home care. You don’t need to expect great things from yourself or your partner, let them be unimportant. After all, in fact, it is from the little things that our life is made up of.
Rule Seven
Respect personal space and the desire to be quiet, to be alone.
Each of us has a way of dealing with stress. It is easier for someone to shut up, someone to talk, someone to want solitude, someone to hug. Your shared task is to find a balance between ways of adapting to one another.
eighth rule
Maintain sexual balance. Libido responds to stress, for some it rises, for others, on the contrary, it falls asleep. Both of these are normal.
If someone in your couple wants more sex and someone doesn’t, you will need to seek a compromise.
There is only one way – word of mouth.
ninth rule
Share stress and relationships. Your task is to rally against a common “enemy” and defend your unit from it. This is the best and most effective tactic.
tenth rule
Take equal responsibility for what happens to the relationship. “Decide what to do”, “how to deal” etc. Remove such ideas from your head and speech.
Thinking and coping should be TOGETHER.
Then he goes.
Source: People Talk
