A woman is split when she reveals she is angry that her husband is “quitting”.
The mother, who was a size 10 when they got married and is now a size 14, was very upset to explain that her husband “threw it out”, that she “didn’t understand what was happening”.
He added: “[He said] That I let myself go and that I did not look like the woman he married. He’s right, I know, and it’s terrible.’
Some users were shocked by his words and described him as “cruel”, while others agreed and said they would tell their partner if they felt their appearance slipping.
The mother, who was a size 10 when they got married and is now a size 14, went to Mumsnet and explained that her husband was “whistling”, that she “didn’t understand what was happening to her” and she thought she understood. git (stock image)
The woman explained that she was stressed as a stay-at-home mom who works part-time and doesn’t have time to care for her.
The woman explained that she looks after her two-year-old child and works part-time, sometimes “sitting in her pajamas until noon” when she’s at home.
She continued: “My hair is combed and clean, but now my only care is to go to the hairdresser every few months to get rid of split ends. I did balayage when we met and did my hair regularly.
“I rarely wear make-up anymore, when I applied my usual tinted moisturizer, I blushed and did my eyebrows and eyelashes.
“I dress well when I’m out, but tonight I was wearing my big robe and pajamas (not very attractive I know). It hurts and I don’t know what to do.
“I just don’t have as much time as I used to, we have a 2-year-old daughter and it takes a lot of time.
‘So much so that some days I’m still in my pajamas in the afternoons when I don’t go to kindergarten (I work 3 days a week) and I’m SAHM [stay at home mother] when not working.
“I want to lose weight and when we go out I dress well, make up, put on make up etc.) but it doesn’t happen very often these days!”
Some commentators were furious that her husband talked to her like that and called her “cruel”.
Some commentators believed that since physical attraction is such an important part of a relationship, her husband now has the right to say whether he is happy with his appearance or not.
One person said: ‘I think it’s important to activate your looks in a marriage, for me sexual attraction should be there.
“I wouldn’t be happy if my husband gained too much weight and quit. However, I would like to address the issue with sensitivity and courtesy. I hope he does the same for me.’
Another thought of undressing is, ‘… why don’t you undress when you have a 2-year-old child to look after?
Others thought it was a double standard and asked him if he looked like “Brad Pitt”.
“I’m not arguing that taking care of young children can take too much time, but not too long to put on your clothes before noon.”
A third person wrote: “Attractiveness is important: If you’ve gained a lot of weight and you spend most of your day in your pajamas, to be honest, I understand where that comes from.”
However, others found her husband’s comments cruel and unnecessary, and she should love him no matter what he looks like.
One person said, “Tell him he doesn’t exist in this world for his visual enjoyment and do whatever you want with your goddamn body?” said.
Some commentators believed that since physical attraction is such an important part of a relationship, her husband now has the right to say whether he is happy with his appearance or not.
While another thinks it’s a double standard, namely: ‘Is it still the same (no graying, no wrinkles, no beer belly or thinning hair)?
“If he’s not a perfect example of a man, tell him to make one!”
A third person realized how disturbing it was and wrote: ‘Reading is terrible. I’d be devastated if my DH told me.
“It’s an important part of growing old together and feeling comfortable with each other.”
Source: Daily Mail
