How to stop worrying and become the best version of yourself: we tell you everything

Article published on 12 October 2018.

Imagine yourself on your deathbed. Yes, I’m creating the live atmosphere.

You think you tell yourself:

” Oh no! I have not taken the head enough, I should have thought more in the eyes of others and tortured my mind with the details! »?

How to stop worrying?

The answer better be no, because life is for fun and I don’t give a fuck while you canprecisely because in the end you die.

Easy to say Elvire, but what to do when the passion of your mind is to bring the cabbage to the ideal length of the cuff of your jeansthe decent length of the response to a flirtatious message or what that stranger really thought about you when he gave you that weird look on the bus.

So here are some tips for becoming a balek person, taken from this question on Reddit the art of not caring.

The gaze of others? It’s in your head (and you know it)

The gaze of others is a great factor of psychological misery that is common to inflict on oneself.

Because in reality there are rare people who will actually take you between four eyes to tell you all the bad things they think about you.

let’s face it, the gaze of others exists above all in our headwhich is quite reassuring as it implies:

• That we can stop thinking about it and it stops existing
• That everyone is too busy thinking in the eyes of others to really care about you, your failures and your successes

Assuming that everyone goes crazy for what others will think, it is therefore possible to gently relax the dough:

“Fuck your balls literally means stop worrying about how others will perceive you. Stop worrying about what others think of you, try to understand that your actions speak for themselves. You will never like it at all. Stop trying. “

It still will be easier if you are honest with yourself, say and do the things you like and that you think sincerely, so you can take them with panache and not feel the need to justify yourself.

“Here’s what you have to accept: There will be a lot of people in your life that you like and think they are great but they won’t end up adapting. your team. It is normal and not serious. Not everyone you find charismatic and the like will become your tribe.

Too much hassle is usually the result of a mistake in evaluating yourself (I’m not good enough for them), while you don’t fit (they are great but they don’t match). “

I want to quote this great poet from Taïro:

“Be yourself, be yourself and you will know who you are, you will know who loves you for who you are. “

Come on, let’s all join hands and shake our dreadlocks!

You can’t control everything (and you’ll have to agree with that)

It is also of little use arguing over issues you have no influence onlike something that has already happened:

“There is no point in complaining about what has already happened. If you can accept that this something has already happened and that no amount of crying or crying in despair can undo it, you can overcome your initial anger or frustration and act normally again.

You may still be revered, but you will think more clearly. “

Comet plans are also great for a free puzzle game!

Instead, you can immerse yourself in the present (the only thing that really exists) and agree that you are not 100% in control of the consequences of your actions.

so stay focus on processesthe things unfolding before your eyes and accept the consequences in advance, whatever they may be.

You can also save a lot of time and life energy don’t try to always be rightas this Internet essay reminds us:

“When you know you are right, you don’t need to convince others. “

Stop worrying – become skilled I don’t care

To get the nirvana dabbing shell, you can also tell yourself that whatever you have in mind, literally the whole world will have forgotten what it is about 100 years from nowand more realistically, in about a quarter of an hour.

Assuming that no one, absolutely no one, will remember your successes or failures (since at the root they will eat all the dandelions, including you), you can start having fun, in complete relaxation.

“The trick is find the things that really matter to you. And fuck everyone else. “

I leave you with this last piece of advice which sums it up well:

“Begin to convince yourself of this nothing really matters, everyone makes mistakes, nobody is perfect and everyone dies. “

The point of all this hype about the ovaries isn’t becoming a taciturn nihilist or having an excuse to hurt others. The goal is to give you all the freedom you deserve to do some good bullshit and plug up your separation.

Have a good time!

And you, what’s your trick to stop worrying about things that aren’t worth it?

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