On TikTok, a mother pinches her 3-year-old daughter’s eyebrow to avoid teasing her

She is no more than 3 years old and is already subject to injunctions. In a video posted on TikTok, a mother films her scene: she waxes her child’s only eyebrow, to avoid, according to her, teasing.

A little girl gets her mother plucked her eyebrow on TikTok

In the video, Leah Garcia justifies her gesture by writing in the video caption:

I don’t care, I’d rather be called a bad mother than letting my 3-year-old walk around with just one eyebrow, like my parents did with me.

We can then see the 3-year-old girl in the bathroom, with wax stuck between her two eyes, with her hair torn out that could earn teasing outside the home, often from other children. .

The comments below the video are divided, but above all cheer up the gesture of the baby’s mother: ” will thank you one day “We can read from a user of the platform or” I wish my mom did it for me, I’ve been so pissed off about the hair on my eyebrows and arms “.

If we can understand that Leah Garcia did not want her daughter to receive inappropriate and offensive comments as was, as her case indicates when she was a child, this video questions itself.

Should we, as mothers, or more generally as parents, be the ones who think and show that our children have “defects”? Does not the fact of anticipating possible, and unfortunately almost certain jokes, condition them to think that their physique cannot be accepted as it is?

Helping our children to shape a better image of themselves

Shouldn’t we, on the contrary, help them shape their image of themselves despite ridicule and criticism? In this specific case, which is that of a girl’s hair removal, what does it tell us about our ability to be able to free ourselves from patriarchal norms?

This little girl has only one eyebrow and her mother pulls it out to avoid trauma and teasing, like the ones she received at the same age. Her intention is commendable, she just wants to protect her son. But what’s the next step? Would she have made the same gesture if her son had been a boy?

What is also disturbing is that the girl does not decide to have her hair removed on her own, it is a choice imposed to avoid traumas, before they happen. Her mother decides for her, so that she does not suffer what she herself has experienced. A modification of her body, a denunciation of a “defect” which is not one. But, at just three years old, would she have wanted to have the hair removed between her two eyes?

We do not judge the act of the mother (and we do not judge mothers in general), but rather the society that incites this act, so much so is it difficult to transmit and accept acceptance of oneself and of one’s body. Injunctions and diktats always start earlier, and it’s irritating.