The “festi gender reveal”, this sexist plague

The “festi gender reveal”, this sexist plague

In Brazil, a “gender revelation party” was organized which revealed, in addition to the sex of the unborn child and clichés, the great irresponsibility of the organizers of this party that could have gone wrong.

Know the ” gender revelation parts », Literally the gender reveal party in French? Very fashionable in recent years, they serve to reveal the sex of the future unborn, in front of an audience and future parents, who already know about it, or who discover it together with their guests. The target. the goal? Scream very loudly if you see pink (for girls) or blue (for boys) appearing in a more or less original way.

If we can ask ourselves about the usefulness – and about sexism – of this type of event, some do not hesitate to push the originality of the revelation to an ecologically dangerous paroxysm, as is the case with this one. «Gender revelation party which took place in Brazil a few days ago.

They reveal the sex of their baby by coloring a waterfall in the middle of nature

On September 25, a couple decided to organize a small party in Mato Grosso, a state in central Brazil. All the clichés of this type of celebration were present: fake stork, pink and blue balloons, cannons that swing colored smoke in the air. But the little extra: the natural waterfall that can be glimpsed in the background, which turns blue, announcing that the unborn child will be a boy. Even if it means being cliched, you might as well go all out.

It is a video shot by the relatives of the parental couple that shows this ecological aberration. In the midst of a climate crisis, in which water is becoming a rare commodity, these people had the wise idea of ​​coloring the water of the Cachoeira Queima-Pé waterfall, which then flows into a river that feeds the city of Tangarà. from Serra.

After causing a stir on their Instagram account, the future parents quickly deleted the images. But being everything (or almost) eternal on the internet, it was uploaded again by others, and in particular by Vanessa Costa, a Brazilian forest engineer and creator of content, with the caption:

Seriously, did they think it was a good idea to put the dye in a waterfall ?! Many ways of doing gender revelation party and they managed to choose only one with an environmental impact.

@ vanecosta10

gender revelation party : Has the waterfall been polluted?

According to SEMA, the environmental protection agency for the Mato Grosso region contacted by Washington Postwho took samples to check if the quality of the water had been altered, ” no changes in the physical parameters of the water, such as color and the like, and no evidence of local killing of fish it would not have been detected. The analyzes are still ongoing.

However, even though the water would not have been polluted by the party, the SEMA recalled Brazilian law that “the throwing of solid, liquid or gaseous waste or debris, oil or oily substances” is punishable by a fine of $ 926 to $ 9,263, or between € 1,000 and € 10,000, depending on the damage caused.

According to the couple of parents contacted by SEMA, they were not aware that a substance would have spread in the water of the waterfall, accusing a family member of this act. This person would also be identified and contacted.

Why such an attraction for gender revelation parties?

In recent years we have seen more and more videos on social networks. Often full of clichés, however, they seem to be very important for future parents who make the revelation of the unborn child’s sex a real event.

Sometimes they are even dangerous parts:

Yes, it is an alligator. This is americaaaaa

But why ? Why this need to reveal the shape of your unborn child’s genitals to his family and friends? What is this call to celebration? We already knew the babyshower, parties generally full of clichés, which consist in celebrating the future birth. It might already be too much but ok, it was also a good excuse to eat a cake and drink some apple juice while they unwrapped the presents.

But what is the point of celebrating the sex of an unborn child?

For some parents who follow this celebration, the ” reveal the genre party it is above all an extra occasion to celebrate pregnancy. The birth is still far away, the baby showerwhich usually also happens around the 8th month of pregnancy, and this new celebration can allow you to share with your loved ones the news and the joy that can accompany pregnancy, from the beginning (or almost) of gestation.

On paper it’s fine, why not. But what is disturbing, in addition to the sexism and clichés that can be felt like honey, is the fact of celebrating in advance a gender that you choose for the child, and that may not be the one that will then correspond to him.

On this point, the creator of the reveal the genre party, Jenna Karvunidis adds a layer, having already explained that she regrets seeing how these parties went haywire. On her Facebook page she publishes:

The “festi gender reveal”, this sexist plague
Translation : ” […] Someone remembered that it was I who “invented” the gender reveal party. I had written about my birthday on my blog and on a parenting forum in July 2008. It was revived, then an interview with me was posted in The Bump magazine and the idea gradually spread and spread from there. I even framed the article!

However, I have had a lot of mixed feelings about this. Then it exploded completely! Literally: gunshots, fires, more emphasis on gender than a child ever needed.

Who cares about the sex of the baby? I did it at the time because we weren’t living in 2019 and didn’t know what we know now – that the focus on sex at birth leaves out a lot of their potential and talents that have nothing to do with what they have in between. legs .

SHOT OF SCENE, the first child in a gender reveal party is a girl wearing costumes! “

According to Jenna Karvunidis, her first daughter would begin to identify as non-binary.

Birth parties, why not. But celebrating the supposed future gender of an unborn child, while surrounding it with completely outdated clichés and stereotypes, if it could be avoided, they would all be winners.

Conditioning a baby before it is even born

If some people think that these parties are just banal, joyful parties, and that they have nothing sexist about them, just watch some videos that show the disappointment of the future parents, or more often the father, let’s be honest, when he finds out that he is about to be born. a girl. Here’s an example, and it’s far from the only one:

As if having another daughter was a pain!

Be warned, there is, of course, nothing wrong with wanting to have a boy. Also, there is nothing wrong with wanting to know your child’s future sex, as is the case with 85% of French parents who wish to obtain this information before giving birth.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate a future birth, wanting to eat a cake, wanting to be the center of attention for an afternoon, always getting congratulations. Really, okay, everyone on his behalf.

Where it becomes problematic, in the case of the ” reveal the genre party And its exuberance, is when it continues to maintain a barely hidden ordinary sexism, and that this forces on stereotypes that will not help the person to be born to face it. In fact, if parents are already so thorough about stereotypes even before giving birth, one should not hope too much for an improvement throughout the child’s childhood, without being pessimistic.

Celebrating is okay, it’s okay to be happy to have a child, but doing it respecting the environment, without wanting at all costs to receive the prize for the craziest party on Sunday afternoon noon to the detriment of nature, is even more fun. Being able to be happy to welcome a girl or a boy soon without marking differences that will affect the entire future childhood of the unborn child, is even better, for everyone.

Photo credit image of one: Jacod Lund

Source: Madmoizelle

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