My ex keeps my things: how to recover what belongs to me?

Daronne is the Queen of the Council not if against a large dose of more or less thin humor. Here he returned to fly to the help of a reader!

The question for Daronne

Dear Daronne,

I remained two years with my ex, but our second year was complicated to manage: it was possessive, I made stories for everything and I expected that I dedicate myself body and soul to our relationship. When we were both, we spent great moments, but daily life was painful. When I tried to explain to him that I was suffocating, he reproached me for not having invested enough in our couple.

I tried and I still tried to make myself heard, but without result, I ended up leaving him after hesitated for a long time. Obviously he took him very badly and made me many reproaches before dirtying in his pride and telling his friends that he had been to leave. But this is not the problem. The problem is that he refuses to give me back my things. Fortunately, we did not live together, but with him I still had clothes, I had left some jewels for great value, but to which I wanted, books that had been offered to me, including one dedicated by my favorite author.

He does not reply to my messages, or tells me that he will contact me to give me an appointment, otherwise he tells me that he will ask his friend to ring, but nothing happens and I start to become impatient. How to recover my things?

THANK YOU,

Stef

Daronne’s answer

My small orchid,

You are very lucky. If you knew the number of breakages that do not end: we promise to remain friends, we kiss here and there, without being able to cut the net and this is how we come to the twilight of his life without knowing if this story is really over. Even if at least, you know you were right to put the sails.

I admit it, on the other hand, you put a lot of glue. I myself had the opportunity to meet a number of idiots during my life and I never managed to think with anyone. So I’m afraid of not being of great help. But we can discuss it, if you want.

Recovering your things, is it really essential?

I am not a materialist Daronne. Okay, it is above all because I am awkward and disordered and that I tend to damage or lead absolutely all my goods. But at least, he taught me not to stick too much to objects because, unlike children, they can let me go during the night. Having said that, I perfectly understand your frustration even if you fuck me a bit in a ball, because your ex has succeeded: break your feet and probably take revenge.

And only for this, I wonder if it is worth fighting hard to recover your things. In your place, I would refuse to give the slightest interest to this type of small Shenanigans. This would mean making a cross on an orphan earring, half torn book and a sweatshirt full of indelible spots, but I am like this: without concessions.

Not only does he not care about your apple, but he keeps you hostage. Maintaining your business is not even a thin way to maintain a connection and ensure that the relationship remains. I grant you, it is a lousy relationship in which at least one of you despises the other, but recalls the omnipresence of Eric Zemmour during the last presidential campaign. All Instagram spent the first half of 2022 to denounce the words of the dirt Nabot, and therefore to speak only of him. He hates him, but like him, everything he wants is to parasitic your existence, has achieved his goal. And among us, is freedom cheaper than some sentimental relics? I do not believe.

How to recover your things?

Ah, are you like that? At this stage of the story, I would have fallen for a long time, but maybe you are Pugnace, I don’t know. So listen, to please you, I still considered two or three scenarios that could make makeup. Although I will not hesitate to repeat it several times if necessary: ​​in general, the idiots dare everything and are not afraid of anything.

The voice of reason: Listen, miracles sometimes exist. I don’t know the nature of your latest exchanges. If the tone were aggressive, retropolatale and calmly explain the situation: you would really like to recover your things. You sorry that the situation is not easy, you are sorry and if you want things to be as simple as possible, it is also for him. You trust his intelligence. Blah black, flute, flute, flute.

The legal way: By doing some searches to find out how you could force an ex to do business, I discovered that your situation was very common. It gives you a nice leg, but I allow myself to support the theory that a large shack sleeps in each of us.

In short, yes, therefore, first of all, you can send him a letter recorded with recognition of the receipt. In this formal notice, you will actually require the immediate remuneration of your property. Reports outside the marriage are systematically falling under the regime of separation of goods. If the attempt fails, you can then approach a lawyer or submit a complaint, even if ideally, you should have kept the purchase tests that allow you to request their property. I have to tell you that I am quite skeptical about your chances of success. Justice has never been a great interest in what it elegantly calls “conflicting separations”. A lawyer can still suggest remedies that will have the merit of exerting pressure, even if this means contacting him alone.

If you prefer not to get there (that nobody will blame you), threat that it could already put it back on the tracks. Even if he is tempting, I don’t recommend you land at home with friends and hockey sticks. Not all dreams are intended to become reality.

I leave you, I have to find a new clock for Daron before I discover that I broke the old one,

The bisect,

Ta daronne

PS: If you can’t recover your things, contact me. I will be happy to send you this printed and dedicated article to replace the book signed by your favorite author.