“When he heard the term BDSM, I saw him break”: the worst of the worst false dates

This week, with the meeting of the USLIB meeting, we give the floor to one of our readers, who tells us without taboo one of these worst crazy dates. This story could have been avoided if the services offered by the application at the moment was currently learned. Immersion.

Basically, I didn’t really want to register on the meeting questions, but I ended up falling. After all, everyone does it and this is an opportunity to meet people who will not necessarily come across your daily life. I ended up taking the big step with a fairly known appointment app.

The idea was not so much to find the love of my life, but to meet a guy I was going to get along and who would have been compatible enough with my sex life, let’s say, released.

“When you stick too well, it’s that there is a wolf”

Here’s how I met Alex’s profile. Not only was it damn beautiful, but in addition, his profile convened many boxes. He loved Italy and his cuisine he had discovered during his year in the history of art at the Faculty of Florence in Erasmus. It is something that made a direct inclination when I read it on his profile. My family comes from Taranto, so meeting a boy who shares the same love for the country was a sign for me.

We shared a lot in common. You pass the details, but he loved cinema, he was sensitive to ecology, he loved excursions and climbing, traveling, in short, the profile was almost perfect.

All the lights were apparently green. So, I decided to flow and we combined. So we started chatting every day. The current was going very well and row for Needle, we started warming up a little. Personally, I appreciate the BDSM. It is not necessarily super -current, so I tried the ground a little without revealing myself too much and it seemed quite receptive to me, which reassured me.

So we decided to see each other in real life. We had an appointment in a bar at the 11th Arrondissement in Paris and I was ahead. In the meantime, I went back to his profile and I don’t know why, I had a bad feeling. I really don’t know how to explain it, but at that moment there was something strange, a detail on which I could not put my finger. You know, when you stick too well on paper, it’s that there is a wolf.

A profile that has nothing to do with reality

Finally he arrived 10 minutes late and there, the cold shower. The boy I had in front of me was certainly quite cute, but he did not really expect his photo gallery. It seemed that all the photos of his profile had been retouched to the AI.

I disillusioned a little but I went on telling me that our conversations would probably be interesting in reality as if by messages. Or not.

Discussing a little, I dug the “background“By Alex who was absolutely not a graphic designer, but an VTC driver had set foot in Italy, but it was”Only for a few days on vacation“. Recipes and tricks, had come out of Sbreddit R/Italianfood. At this point, I will be honest with you, the only thing that kept me at the bar was the quality of my beer and the possibility of ending the evening with him.

So I connected it a little to our latest conversations more “Heat“To forget the shaky profile he had created. You should know that in my intimate life I like BDSM (laugh). It is not necessarily an information that we let it go for a message to a boy we have never met, but I had suggested that I was rather open to not very common practices.

And in the exchanges, Alex seemed explicitly open on the subject. So I put my feet on the plate by talking to him about my desires on the side of the sex to try on the ground. When he heard the term BDSM, I saw him break before he admitted me with a seriously ensured voice that he was super uncomfortable and that he preferred much more conventional sex.

Honestly, I felt like I was wasting my time. I finished the date, because nothing was blocked, neither on a human level nor on a sexual level. At that moment, I told myself that there was no way to calmly anticipate his wishes from the sex side in an app for a meeting. The topic is not necessarily easy to approach a stranger and I admit that the idea of ​​being able to combine someone who directly announces what his knots are, it would clearly simplify things.

You see, with, I don’t know, a filter system, for example, could have asked to meet only guys who share my desires, who would have avoided this mad appointment from A A A Z.

To avoid unpleasant date surprises, there is also the USLIB application

Talking about your desires or practices with all serenity to meet applications without feeling judged is far from obvious. It is with this in mind that the USLIB application was born.

Designed of individuals or couples who wish to reveal themselves in a protected and benevolent space, the application of meeting puts everything in place to make its platform a SafePlace Digital meeting. To do this, we allow you to filter the profiles based on its sexual practices and preferences. Everything is done to avoid unpleasant surprises.

Better still, we have a rigorous moderation that scrupulously controls every profile before validating them. The certainty of talking to real people, with confidence. It is finally possible to chat from the application and send ephemeral photos such as Snapchat. Something to discover little by little before taking the step of the real date.