Filming yourself during sex: the golden rules for a safe sex tape

You don’t need to be Rocco Siffredi or Emily Willis to enjoy the right to make love in front of the camera: the sex tape is not a sexual practice reserved for porn stars, far from it. All you need to do is have the desire, which our partner also has, to have a smartphone or any other technology that allows you to record yourself during coitus, and that’s it! If some people don’t see the point film yourself during sex, explain the main stakeholders, that in this moment T, this allows them to get even more excited: the idea of ​​feeling observed, watched, gives them a feeling of danger which increases the adrenaline, the thrill, the excitement. In retrospect, it is also the possibility of watch the film alone or with your partner, which is stimulating for both lovers: seeing each other on the screen, as if you were an X-rated actor, can be very exciting.

This sexual fantasy is actually quite common; new technologies have opened the field of virtual sex to all those who wish to spice up their carnal life. Before the sex tape is made, a question arises: How to film yourself during the act ensuring your safety? How can you best protect yourself from the risks and, in particular, the danger of having your sex tape disclosed and shared against your will? What are the things to avoid and what to encourage? Here are some tips for launching yourself safely in this moment of high vulnerability.

Discuss the sex tape at length beforehand

It is highly recommended that you do so make a sex tape with someone we really know, worthy of our trust. In fact, recording yourself during sexual intercourse is not a trivial gesture: the video can destroy someone’s destiny if it falls into the wrong hands.

In addition to the unshakable trust you must have in your partner, you must also have faith in the sex tape that will be made. So we don’t film ourselves during coitus with anyone: the video project must be considered carefully. First, specialists advise Don’t improvise the shots and’have a clear discussion in advance about the registration conditions : that’s the interestestablish boundaries do not transgress, respect consent on the sexual practices that we accept or not accept to be filmed. Choice of the equipment used, the angle adopted, the video recording time… All this is part of the consensus zone to be defined and respected. For example, some will be reluctant to show their face: it will be necessary to favor soft lighting or a viewing angle that does not allow them to see their face.

And for those who leave nothing to chance: if it can reassure you, you can also agree on a “lighting scenario” before filming (obviously we are not talking about a pre-established dialogue, a sequence of very specific scenes, but the choice of a role-playing game with two characters for example).

Make sure of the degree of vulnerability to which you agree to “expose”

A face visible in images exposes us more than a shot focused on our body. The face makes us easily identifiable and therefore more vulnerable if the video were to accidentally leak. For those who want to guarantee their safety as much as possible, Film the antics without showing your pretty face it can be a good compromise to avoid exposing yourself too much. This advice also applies to any other part of our body that has a specificity that contributes to our “singularity” : a birthmark with an original shape, a quite personal tattoo, a scar positioned in a particular point…

However, for some bad people, facial expressions are stimulating: seeing the show of pleasure on their partner’s face contributes to their arousal. So, for those who still want to show their face in the sex tape in question, it could be interesting to work so as to see the faces of the two lovers, who are “equal” in the “degree of exposure”, who are both equally recognisable. This way, you might dissuade the other person from revealing it in the event of a critical argument or messy breakup (you never know).

Of course, sex must be careful and the sex tape should never be used to put any psychological pressure on the other. But sharing and diluting the risk between the two individuals is a way to reassure and give confidence to our lover: by doing so, we show him that we too are putting ourselves in danger and that we are just as vulnerable as him in carrying out this fantasy. If the obscene video is made from a smartphone in “POV” mode, with one of the partners holding the camera to film the other, it might be interesting to alternate roles so that each partner can sometimes be the actor, sometimes director .

Prioritize single viewing… and deletion immediately afterwards

Many people make porn videos because they want to watch them over and over again, whenever they feel like it, they want to masturbate while watching them, or their partner is physically distant (as part of a long-distance relationship, for example). However, specialists advise born view the video only once, immediately after shooting it, and delete it immediately afterwards to avoid the risk of it being transmitted.

While some may think this misses the point, filming yourself can be just as exciting as watching it. When we whip out the camera to record our antics, the process is as important as the outcome.

Store video content in a password-protected location

But if you absolutely want to preserve this masterpiece worthy of the 7th Art because the memory engraved in your memory is not enough, be sure to keep it in a safe digital place. We will therefore prefer to store the video directly on the mobile phone rather than on online storage spaces and/or other clouds. (Drive, iCloud etc.). For example, iPhone allows you to hide these photos and/or videos in an album specifically dedicated to them “masked”, access to which is limited by a password. After making the sex tape, we recommend that you reset all of your passwords to ensure that only you can access it.

For the more zealous, another option is possible; those who don’t want to leave any digital trace: instead of filming with your smartphone, you can also use it a good old video camera, like the old way. Obviously this presupposes that it is kept in a physically safe and protected place (safe, key drawer, etc.)

Don’t chase the natural

In everyday life, knowing that we are being photographed and/or filmed can harm our spontaneity. Well this also applies to our sexuality! Gold, this spontaneity is often necessary to get off : calculating everything, cerebralizing everything in the sexual relationship prevents you from letting go and letting yourself go. The first point that could harm the success of the sex tape is therefore that lack of naturalness : exaggerate with what we feel and/or do because we know we will be filmed, seek performance, simulate excessively and chase away this naturalness which is nevertheless essential to carnal pleasure. We must also experience pleasure in the present moment, and not just by watching the aforementioned video. A good way to remedy this is to place the camera in a corner of the room where it will be forgotten, on a stand, furniture or tripod. So, do you want to try it?

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