SOS Doctor Monboule, how is Fellatio performed?

“ Help, Doctor Monboule!

Here’s my situation: I’d like to try performing oral sex on my sexual partners, but… I have no idea how to use my mouth on a penis. Frankly, no one. I’m confused and it’s blocking me! So, although I would like to try this part of oral sex, I have never done it and the fear of making a mistake prevents me from doing it. Don’t have a tip or two in the drawers? »

Dear apprentice speaker,

How I understand your confusion! The first time I put my head close to an erect penis, I reacted exactly like a deer in front of a car’s headlights: I stood still for 5 minutes, before running into the forest.

But don’t panic! Having experienced penises from five continents (the title of Ass Doctor is not acquired without experience), I have accumulated some useful information for those who wish to whisper in cocks’ ears.

To begin, a preface is needed. You’re talking about a block, which seems to me to be due to the unknown and can be overcome with pleasure and ease. But if you ever feel any other kind of discomfort, don’t force yourself! We can hardly have fun without listening to each other. No sexual act is obligatory, and if anyone tries to make you believe it, send them to a pit full of nettles, if you are there.

Another important detail: every body is different and every person with a penis will have their own desires, desires and pleasures. As in 100% of cases (according to my statistics), communicating will only make your job easier!

Come on, it’s time to practice: here are my recipes.

Prescription number 1: remember that the Internet lies

In the ass as in life, only one thing is immutable: you can’t believe everything you see on the Internet. If mainstream porn is to be believed, some expert level or even random Twitter tutorials, oral sex on the penis requires a bac +12 in anatomy and the ability to make tyrannosaurus sounds during the act… Enough to disorientate the quietest among us.

It is also very likely that your confusion comes from these models that we see on the web and which have the annoying habit of making almost the entire world complex. I assure you: I don’t distinguish right from left and no one has ever complained about my performance.

Plus, no one will probably ever complain about yours either! You say you’re afraid of “making a mistake”, but I can assure you of one thing: It’s not a competition and your partners are definitely already honored to share sex with you. If they aren’t, feel free to leave me their phone number in the comments, I have some things to tell them.

As long as you listen to the body of the person you practice with and your own, everything can only go well… Unless you harm others – and that’s why we still have to talk about teeth.

Prescription number 2: tame the area

So let’s get started. You say you are very confused about how to use your mouth on a penis and this is normal: “ yuck,” it actually means nothing. Knowing how to give pleasure to your partner is therefore not necessarily intuitive and requires the ability to feel comfortable with the organ.

Furthermore, your confusion perhaps comes from the fact that you know little about this organ! If you have the person you would like to put a flower in the crotch at hand and you have his consent, don’t hesitate to look and touch his penis, just to tame him a little.

I know this advice may seem a little stupid, but you can’t imagine how many people dare to look at this member just from afar! As if, through patriarchy and phallic skyscrapers, we got it into our heads that there was nothing more intimidating than a rooster.

Once you have been able to tame the object a little without necessarily tasting it, you can also get close during sex, without going through the Fellatio process if you don’t feel ready yet. Kissing it without putting it in your mouth, for example, or kissing the erogenous zones close to them: the testicles, the pubis, the inside of the thighs…

Prescription 3: vary the pleasures

When you feel ready and the previous steps have allowed you to feel more comfortable and less lost, you can move on to actual Fellatio!

Mainstream straight porn tends to present a single image of a blowjob: that of a woman capable of taking an entire penis into her mouth and performing vigorous back-and-forth motions on it.

In reality, not everyone has such good cervical quality and it is very likely that if you try to put an entire penis in your mouth too quickly, you will stimulate the gag reflex. So you can start instead licking your partner’s penis or using a lubricant (safely ingestible) to make oral sex easier and more pleasant for both of you.

Then, you can place your mouth around the glans (opening it enough so the teeth don’t contact anything) and go back and forth that you will gradually lengthen, taking the time to see how comfortable it is for you to go far. Each person is different in this, so you will have to act according to your feelings!

Don’t hesitate to vary the pleasures: it’s not because you’ve started Fellatio that you can’t stop and move on to masturbating with your hands and/or chest For example. You can also do both at the same time, keeping your mouth on the top of the penis and masturbating the base (ok, this technique requires a little coordination).

You wonder what to do with your hands during this period? You can choose whether to place them in a strategic position on your partner’s body, use them to support you or use them to accompany you in your task by caressing his testicles, for example.

Let’s also remember that a blowjob does not necessarily have to lead to orgasm. As soon as you feel like something else, we’ll stop! And if you practice oral sex without protection, don’t forget that you can choose whether or not to let your partner ejaculate in your mouth: it’s up to you.

There are many different positions in which to perform Fellatio and many methods. But you are new to this field and should not overload yourself with information! With all this, you should be able to tame your fear of taking action a little, and above all to be able to satisfy your desire to try.

And if you invent a new technique, don’t forget to send it to us so we can test it!

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