June 14, 2018
According to the representations mainstreamThere are two essential things in heterosexual sex:
- Vaginal penetration
- Chronic female dissatisfaction
From there to say that the two would be linked…
Vagina or clitoris, why choose?
Since the fall of the myth of “vaginal or clitoral” women, the clitoris is presented as the Holy Grail and its very representation has become a feminist symbol.
So much so that it is sometimes sold as a magic button that just needs to be activated to provide pleasure – which this article on vulva touching clearly invalidates!
In addition to creating apprehension in many virgin women, who are promised a painful first time, the obsession with vaginal penetration is often presented as a symptom of our cock-centric (pornographic) culture. However, the practice has more than one reason to make it fun for those who want it.
First of all because the vagina is surrounded by the branches of the almighty clitoris, which can also be a source of pleasure, but also because it closes in a cervix that is as sensitive as it is underused.
And because having a vagina is an amazing thing, twelve readers agreed to describe their feelings to me to answer this question:
“ What is penetration like when you have a vagina? »
What person with a penis has never asked themselves this question? In fact, it is difficult to get under the skin (or rather the mucous membranes) of others!
Also those affected sometimes had difficulty expressing their feelings. Like this reader, who hesitates:
“ I struggled to find the words… It’s not easy to describe. »
Another one abounds:
“ Writing this little text forced me to think a lot about the sensations caused and I realized this with surprise it wasn’t really easy to describe to someone whose body doesn’t work like yours.
It was a very intimate exercise. »
This collection of testimonials will provide a rich and detailed overview to anyone wishing to learn more about vaginal penetration and, I hope, reassure those who need it.
“In concrete terms it is you feel something warm in your lower abdomen that follows the shape of her vagina »
Excitement and the vagina
Predominantly internal organ, having a vagina is no more felt than having nostrils in everyday life. Marion* explains:
“ Without excitation, it is a “normal” cavity., but when desire rises the walls swell to become a comfortable, moist and very sensitive pillow. »
At the moment of sexual arousal, the vagina somehow comes to life and provides more intense sensations. Sensation of electric current, heat, tickling… The sensation is different for each person.
“ What I feel when I caress myself or am caressed is like an electric current coming from my groin to my heart and which remains at this level….
Until new caresses cause new electric currents that add to the previous ones. »
“ When someone lays a finger on me, It’s a kind of tickling – but not even a tickle when you hit a pole. It’s a tickle that sends shivers through your lower abdomen. Sometimes it makes me retract my legs in pleasure. »
“ There is like a wave of heat rising in my stomachI feel my penis becoming warm and wet, swollen and much more sensitive. »
Rania*, for her part, provides inspiring testimony about the beginnings of excitement:
“ I feel that the liquid that bathes my vulva is born from this tension that grips me. I’m finally free from my torture!
A finger slides along my slit, from vagina to clitoris. Right now, a choir of a thousand angels sings “The Hymn to Joy” and my eyes roll back. »
Having a vagina during penetration
Numerous testimonies describe vaginal sensations before penetration as an emergency to “fill”:
“When I am very excited, I feel like a small contraction that can become slightly painful, for example if sexual games last a long time without penetration.
As if there was a need to fill the void in my vagina. »
“Penetration is a truly special moment. When my lips open to let in a penis, I feel a rush of heat.
Right now, I feel like I’m not complete until my partner goes all the way in. »
“As the hand caresses me, I am nothing more than a swollen, throbbing penis that contracts, relaxes, and contracts again.
I need something to penetrate my flesh, force my walls and get to the heart of my suffering. »
“Feeling a glans pushing the walls and making a passage towards the bottom, being full is like a vital need. »
At the moment of coitus, difficult to describe precisely the sensation of being penetrated:
“I love the feeling of the penis going in because it hits a lot of nerve endings along the way. The axis matters a lot.
In concrete terms it is you feel something warm in your lower abdomen that follows the shape of her vagina, as if everything was in its place. »
“The sensation of penetration during intercourse is something very strong. We feel like electricity, chills in the groin and this effect builds and increases in the body. It’s captivating and invigorating. »
“I feel the penis in my vulva and deep inside my vagina. Between two, the sensation is imprecise. »
After this sensation of fullness, of completeness, it is the back and forth movements of the penis that increase the pleasure.
“It’s a feeling of life within yourself. Each movement gives a feeling of fullness, literally and figuratively.
The return trip most of the time causes contractions of the perineum that accentuate pleasure, as a sort of opening and closing of the penis, which further increases friction. »
“I feel successive waves of pleasure. I think the most important thing is movement.
Ultimately, penis size doesn’t matter. What I mainly feel is friction against the vaginal walland the strength of the movement.
The best moment for me: when my partner is about to come and the friction is even more intense! »
The question of penetration depth comes up often. Stimulating the sensitive cervix can be a double-edged sword…
“ During penetration there is the area of the cervix which is very sensitive, which feels like a tickle in the pit of your stomach. »
“ Depending on the menstrual cycle, the sensations are different. It can hurt at a certain period of the cycle when the penis goes in too deep, for example.
We feel that it hits something (our dear uterus in this case) and It’s very unpleasant, like a little tummy ache. »
“ I like it when it “hits rock bottom” because it can be extremely good.
However, when I’m on top of my partner, length can become an issue because I feel like my vagina is too small to contain it. I feel like they’re tearing me apart, like my cervix might pop open!
But once at the right angle, the speed makes me forget any other notion other than the fullness of this penis filling my body. »
“ The pleasure spreads throughout my stomach, I feel like tickles or butterflies in this whole area.
The further the penis goes, the more I feel these butterflies… but if it goes TOO far, I get the feeling I feel like someone is punching me inside! »
Having an orgasm when you have a vagina
Many testimonies specify that if clitoral stimulation is essential for orgasm, the vagina plays an active role in orgasm.
“ At the moment of orgasm (which is greatly facilitated by clitoral stimulation), my vagina trembles with spasms, which makes me feel my partner’s penis or sex toy even more. »
“ The closer I feel to orgasm, the more the heat spreads like a bubble that embraces my entire pelvis.
At the moment of orgasm, I experience explosions of pleasure, as if I were riding hot, trembling waves and the contractions of my vagina become delicious. »
And on the penis side? What is it like to penetrate a vagina? The answer is here!
*Names have been changed.
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Mary Crossley is an author at “The Fashion Vibes”. She is a seasoned journalist who is dedicated to delivering the latest news to her readers. With a keen sense of what’s important, Mary covers a wide range of topics, from politics to lifestyle and everything in between.
