Published on March 18, 2019
In our old, standardized conceptions of sexuality, heterosexual sex is centered on penetration and ends when the guy ejaculates. Well.
It is understood that in this context “to last”, “to hold”, in short having fun as late as possible has become a pressure that weighs heavily on men.
But in reality, not only can heterosexual sex continue after male orgasm, but seeing a guy ejaculate “early” is actually exciting for many people! They say why.
These women who like a guy to come quickly
The first time I straddled my first boyfriend, all I had to do was rub his underwear for about 1 minute to make him orgasm.
I didn’t know anything about sex, but I felt damn talented and irresistible.
Since then, I have heard many times from the mouths of men on the verge of orgasm:
“Sorry, I’m about to come…”
This phrase has always sparked amusement and quite a bit of excitement in me.
Funny, because I know that ejaculation is a very difficult reflex to control, and that apologizing for pleasure seems a little far-fetched to me…
Really, I think that’s what we’re here for, man, so enjoy!
Ejaculating quickly is only a problem if you consider that penetration is central and that ejaculation marks the end of the party.
But if we consider itit is possible and very beautiful for a woman to come second in heterosexual sexand penetration is rarely the best technique for doing it anyway, so the moment of ejaculation no longer matters so much.
Many women even find it very, very heat imagine.
Coming “too fast”: flattering for women?
The beauty of the Internet is that everyone can express themselves, share their reality and therefore demystify preconceived ideas, especially on taboo and standardized topics such as sexuality.
For example, on the Reddit forum a woman says this seeing her boyfriend ejaculate after a few thrusts inside her excites her terribly :
“Most of the time, when it comes quickly, I myself am far from having an orgasm. But it doesn’t matter because he is more than happy to take the time and help me come.
Generally, he’s frustrated with himself, which I can understand.
He often apologizes or expresses that he wishes it had lasted longer, to which I always respond that it’s completely ok and that he doesn’t have to stress about it.
Anyway, I find it sexy when he comes fast. Strangely enough it gives me a lot of strength, especially since I have my own issues that prevent me from feeling sexy sometimes.
When, after a bit of back and forth, I hear him say “I can’t hold back, I’m about to come”, man, I find that really hot.
It feeds a fantasy in my head that says, “Oh yeah, it comes so fast because I’m so sexy and I ride it like no one else.”
Does it also turn you on when your partner comes quickly? »
Many answers to this question confirm this seeing a man come after a few moments of penetration can be seen as flattering :
“As long as it doesn’t mean it’s all over, getting a guy so excited that he comes quickly is pretty cool. »
“How can you not take this as the ultimate compliment? »
“For me, the idea of him being so excited that he loses control is very hot. »
Premature ejaculation is not only not experienced as traumatic, but can even be a source of excitement and pleasure. This relaxes the bulb.
Reassure a man who comes quickly
In this article ejaculation is defined as premature if enjoyed” causes distress to the man, his partner or both “.
Precocity is therefore left to everyone’s assessment, as demonstrated by these enthusiastic testimonies.
It does all this too put into perspective the centrality of the rooster in heterosexual relationships : its size and its “resistance” are not the essential criteria for having a pleasant stay!
The words of men also enrich the debate on Reddit by underlining the importance of communication, because Premature ejaculation remains a source of anxiety for many:
“Sometimes I manage to last longer, but in general I come very quickly, often for the same reasons: I haven’t made love in a long time, we’ve done a lot of foreplay…
But what if my partner tells me how sexy he thinks it is? Damn, I’m erect again within minutes and ready for the second round, which in my experience always lasts longer.
So I suggest doing it Telling your partner that it turns you on when he comes will only make things better. »
If your partner feels uncomfortable about enjoying himself “too quickly” for his liking, don’t hesitate to teach him how the female orgasm works and to remind him that he still has the use of his hands and mouth.
Did you know that? Women can also come very quickly…
And you, how do you react when a guy comes in a few minutes?
Source: Madmoizelle
Mary Crossley is an author at “The Fashion Vibes”. She is a seasoned journalist who is dedicated to delivering the latest news to her readers. With a keen sense of what’s important, Mary covers a wide range of topics, from politics to lifestyle and everything in between.
