Originally released in February 2022
Daronne is the queen of less stupid advice wrapped in a more or less subtle touch of humor. Here she is back to rescue a reader!
Dear Daronne,
A few years ago, I took some bad photos. Nothing extravagant, I pose in panties topless. I sent them to a guy I was flirting with at the time. We lost contact and thought no more about it, but here it is… My new girlfriend’s friends found one of the pictures on a dedicated site.
Yeah, I admit to anger that this idiot posted a confidential photo of me on the internet. I know that unfortunately it can happen. The problem is that my girlfriend’s friends froze, some of her even wanted to warn her against me, because I don’t “respect” me …
She supports me, but her friends often talk to her about it and give me weird looks when they see me. At first I told myself It wasn’t a big deal, but now I’m starting to feel ashamed…
What should I do ?
Betty
Daronne’s answer
My little grilled Haloumi,
I’m sorry you are in this difficult situation, one to be taken seriously. If all the girls who took ole ole pictures were on the internet one day, a lot of girls and I would be a part of it, because admittedly it’s a nice way to warm up.
I try to keep it light, but I am aware that the event may turn out extremely traumatic and I would like to show you all my support. Know this too you can file a complaint if you wish ; for information, the police are obliged to receive this complaint. If it is rejected, you can go directly to the prosecutor.
I’m not here to tell you what to do, and you can decide not to go through with it, which is important definitely, is that you can feel at peace and at ease. In the meantime, keep yourself safe and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty.
As Daronne points out, this is revenge porn, it’s a crime, it’s cybersexism, and you can file a police report when you’re a victim of it.
” Sharing sexual content without consent (even if the victim has consented to the recording of this content!) is liable to 2 years’ imprisonment and a fine of 60,000 euros. »
As for the pictures:
“You can also exercise your ‘right to be forgotten’ to have the content in question removed from the first search pages of the Internet. »
It is possible to report this offense – which may be punishable by law – online, but this is no substitute for filing a complaint.
You can find how to collect evidence here and video tutorials for reporting here.
Shame should switch sides! What should feel bad is the despicable individual who posted these images without your consent. And my little finger (also attached to my little hand, which I dream of putting on his face) tells me he’s fine, thanks… For now!
What is this victim who blames society?
I remember this tweet from the National Police advising young girls not to send nudes to boys, because these poor, hormone-filled bastards might be tempted to post them later. Cheer! Thank you guys ! World champions!
The tweet has meanwhile been deleted, but reflects what many still think: the girls would be responsible for the ardor and behavior of these gentlemen and C’È RAS IL CULO. Tired of blame the victim.
I know you know, but I’ll say it again anyway: you have done NOTHING wrong. You had fun and trusted someone. There’s no reason to be ashamed. Imagine a life where you would never have fun and could not trust anyone? Might as well jump straight into a river of molten lava.
These hot photos say nothing about you. They only tell us about the author of their publication and allow us to deduce that he is a filthy asshole (I was going to say pig, but I have nothing against pigs being fascinating animals).
At the very least, from you, they allow me to infer that… one day you liked a guy and you wanted to please him and please him… SHOCKING, isn’t it?
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This also says a lot about the state of mind of your girlfriend’s friends. OK great, they’ve seen the panties and boobs of a girl they vaguely know…good guys, tell me, your life is exciting.
Even though I know the company is what it is, I still find there is a time where this company has a good back. It is true that it is easier to continue perpetuating archaic ideas that incriminate women as soon as they lift a finger than, I don’t know, randomly, questioning and deconstructing yourself a bit.
I’ll tell you, these idiots don’t deserve to be in your life. Even from afar. At the edge of the edge of the edge, if your girlfriend decides to bang her fist on the table and it turns out that the group members admit their stupidity and decide to change their attitude not only towards you but also towards this kind of matter in general and ad vitammaybe you can consider “forgiving”.
But if not, SEE YOU NEXT, HELLO LES NAZES. You don’t have time to spend even a few minutes on it small followers of slut shame.
And if your girlfriend isn’t positioning herself very clearly in your favor, I’m sorry, but we will also have to rethink the relationship. You want someone to support you, not someone to insinuate with their silences that you deserved to be dragged through the mud. Besides, isn’t it a little weird being a woman and having friends who put sluts to shame?
Believe me: there are people who are ready to respect you and loudly defend you. Look, I don’t even know you and I know you, so why not your girlfriend?
Come on, I’ll leave you, I have asses to kick.
bisette,
Your Daronne
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Mary Crossley is an author at “The Fashion Vibes”. She is a seasoned journalist who is dedicated to delivering the latest news to her readers. With a keen sense of what’s important, Mary covers a wide range of topics, from politics to lifestyle and everything in between.
