“I didn’t want to trade”: Victoria Bonya – about new relationships and extreme mountaineering

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Victoria Bonya proved that domestic stars are able not only to go to social events, but also to conquer the peaks. Expeditions to the mountains have changed the socialite immensely.

In an exclusive interview with PopCornNews, she spoke about how her work and personal life have changed and announced her plans.

“The whole history of Russia is a powder keg”:

At the very beginning of the year, when an unstable situation arose in the country, I was busy with my cosmetics. We got all the ingredients for it from Italy – that’s where the best production is. But at some point we were told that it would no longer be possible to export parts from there. For me, this is not just a commercial project, but my brainchild. I had to look for alternative methods, but everything is not so bad. Part of my business is being transformed by what is happening.

If we take the whole history of Russia, we are always living on a powder keg. But even if there were a pandemic and a market crash, this is an opportunity to look for new opportunities. Everything you’ve built could collapse like a house of cards at any moment. This situation is another shake-up, which makes it possible to look the other way, it can be used with a plus sign. I’m not going to complain that everything is bad.

On extreme mountaineering: “I told my daughter I might not come back.”

12 years ago my mother and I went to Nepal. However, we were not in the mountains. But a few years later, my mother said the mountains were her name. And I felt it too. I began to study the topic, and at first I did not understand how people can take risks, sleep in tents for a month without fear of frostbite. After a while I started to look at it differently. There is a special energy in this. I even started dreaming of Everest. I really wanted to go there. And in an instant I realized I was ready.

The last straw was the movie “14 peaks” where Nirmal Purja was. It was he who was my guide in the world of mountaineering. He has inspired me immensely. I wrote him that I dream to climb Everest. And he invited me to go with him to the mountains. I started getting serious, preparing physically. I had strange dreams – human teeth on the table. I knew something terrible was coming, but I wanted to do it anyway. I knew this was my path. So I told my daughter I might not come back. But she wasn’t scared, she even joked about it.

On parenting: “My daughter is very strong and I shouldn’t be a mother hen”

We are used to treating children in such a way that it is your child and it is yours. But this is wrong, nobody owes anyone anything. The first year I was very worried about the baby, and this fear literally captivated me. I began to process this thought: “If something happens to my child, I’m ready. If something has to happen from above, I will have to experience it, this is my lesson.” Probably every mother experiences a similar fear, but it paralyzes.

You have to agree with yourself and accept it. I did and they let me go right away. My child is a separate spirit who came here to receive his experience. My daughter is very strong and I should not be a mother hen. She lives with me for a month and with her father for a month. And the time she is with me, there are no nannies. I dedicate myself to her and take care of her completely. I give all my maternal warmth.

About the relationship with her ex-husband: ‘He still has a grudge against me’

If this is the father of your child, then you as a woman should do everything you can to get a good relationship. He’s a great father and I always talk about this daughter. They have their own tandem. But I always only talk about him with a plus sign, so that the child is not injured, as if the mother has been offended by the father. At the same time, he also had a kind of resentment towards me, which sometimes sneaks into conversations. But I do my best to smooth out sharp corners.

About the new novel: “I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now. I didn’t want to trade.”

If someone thinks it is difficult to find a partner, then it is. It is very important to understand that all your thoughts are material. I think there are many decent people around. If you understand and value yourself, everything will come. I understand what I stand for and what I want. If you don’t work with yourself, act like a redneck and want to get a prince, that’s weird. You shouldn’t lie to yourself. You have to be honest with yourself. That is why I first look at this in people.

If someone lied to me, he loses value in my eyes. If you made a mistake the first time, that’s okay. And if he lied a second time, then this is a wake-up call. Third – you can put a cross. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now. He never lied to me. Honesty is integrity and integrity is strength. Before I met him, I hadn’t been in a relationship for two years. I didn’t want to trade. When we met, there were many strange moments. For example, coarse language. There are no such people in my area. But over time, it went away and I realized it wasn’t for nothing that I looked closely at him.

On the addition: “I am of old age. I am not afraid”

I really want to be a mother again. I have a chic age – so much energy and strength. That’s why I’m not afraid. Of course, there are thoughts about whether it is possible to get pregnant at that age. But if it works, then it’s very cool. And if not, all the mountains of the world are waiting for me. I already have a daughter, I gave birth without an epidural, without a caesarean section. I’m not saying this is the way it should be, but I’m glad I tried my abilities.

On the scandalous past: “I have no friends from” House-2 “

Demand creates supply. If someone watches such shows, then they are needed. I rarely watch such programs. Each has its own size and interest. “Dom-2” fell into the golden age, then it was something new. And people really built relationships, very sincerely. Some of those couples are still together.

I still communicate with Olga Buzova, but she is not my girlfriend. We’re just good friends and have a lot in common. I recently met Nelly Ermolaeva. She and I have been on the show at different times, but we know each other. We talked, talked about children and mountains. But I had no friends from this project.

About courses and marathons: “There are a lot of sloths who brainwash people and just pump money”

When we talk about courses and marathons, I have a cool product “Woman in a Million”. Few people do that now. It’s about how you talk, how to behave. Kind of like the “Tomboys” project where they learn how to be a lady. This is an important part of working on yourself.

When I returned from the expedition, I realized that the question of motivation was ripe. I would like to make a course on this.
There are a lot of lazy bones that brainwash people and just pump money out of it. But on the other hand, if a person has come, he needs it for some reason. Courses are the fun part of teaching. It’s not about people not going to college, it’s going to their favorite blogger. It’s more like buying a cinema or theater ticket.

When we talk about other people’s courses, I’ve been through a lot. By the way, I passed Elena Blinovskaya’s marathon. It gives good information and there is quite a lot of interesting stuff in it. The only thing that let Blinovskaya down was her emotionality. The same Sobchak, who criticized her, took her course with a professor who no one needs, and later started monetizing cryptocurrency.

About plans for the future: “I’m doing everything I can to make the transformation deeper and stronger”

Now I do my retreats in Spain. By law it is not prohibited there and we have even registered our organization. In Russia this would not have been possible. In the coming years I plan to open my own retreat center. It’s mine. I realized this is where I need to be. My first two retreats, I just lay there for two weeks and recovered. We are working hard on a thorough cleaning.

Severe childhood trauma comes to the fore. Outwardly, the process does not look very pleasant, but the participants are undergoing a transformation. Tomorrow the person will get up and feel better. It is not easy at all, but it is very important work. I do everything I can to make the transformation deeper and stronger.

Photo Source: Photo Bank – legion-media.ru, vk.com/victoriabonya

Author: Anastasia Pirogova Olga Sobko