A mother was branded “ungrateful” after her mother-in-law complained that she didn’t get permission before giving her baby ibuprofen while babysitting a teething baby.
An anonymous British poster claiming to be the mother’s “friend”, shared in a post on online parenting platform mumsnet, has revealed that grandparents regularly look after the baby.
This time, however, friction ensued as the mother resented her mother-in-law’s failure to check before dispensing the pain relievers and that if she had already given the baby medication, it could have caused an overdose.
However, the mother was criticized by Mumsnetters friends, who said she should be happy that her mother-in-law can take care of her son. Other commentators suspected that the “friend” might be the mother herself.
A mother believed to be from England was beaten and described as “ungrateful” after she complained that her mother-in-law did not take permission before giving her baby ibuprofen (archive photo)
The mother’s girlfriend, who some suspect is the mother herself, said she would be concerned about a possible allergic reaction or overdose to the baby.
The message read: “Hi everyone, I’m sending on behalf of a friend. My close friend’s daughter was escorted to her grandparents’ house today. She is 19 months old and is currently teething. When the parents are home for a day, you usually stay for a day every few weeks. Usually her daughter is going to go. loves.
My mom (my friend) wasn’t told the following until my dad (friend of a friend) went to pick her up:
‘My daughter took the nurofen doll without telling my boyfriend and her husband. Never had before. Shouldn’t you tell parents before giving their babies medicine? What I’m thinking is, what if my friend gave him the meds before I dropped him and an accidental overdose occurred?
“Does my girlfriend have a right to be angry and worried about this?”
Many people felt that the mother was overreacting and unfair about their father-in-law. Someone wrote: ‘It is very unfair for your friend to be angry about this. She relies on her grandparents to take care of her child and do what’s best for her. “For me, it also means relying on drugs unless it’s made clear that it’s not allowed,” he said.
Another added, “If your friend and husband are waiting for your grandma to teething without painkillers for their grandchildren, they’re definitely getting it.”
And another poster asked why someone who was sure they’d be looking after a baby every few weeks should ask permission to give that baby medication.
People said that the mother should be more grateful to the mother-in-laws for caring for her sick child.
“He seems very controlling, to be honest. What if poor MIL can’t restrain the mother, is the baby supposed to suffer?” they said.
Others suggested that the mother would appreciate the free childcare from the father-in-laws.
“Personally, I would have checked, but I can imagine my aunt not checking because she did it for my son’s sake. I couldn’t care less,” another said, before adding, “Your friend should appreciate your childcare.”
“If your friend had already given medicine and hadn’t told her grandmother, your friend would have been wrong. You are friends,” they added.
Another said, “Parents overreact, they want to be grateful that grandparents gave them time to take a break and not make the little one suffer,” another said.
Some people said that the mother seemed controlling and should trust the grandparents to act in the best interests of the child.
“They also want premium food diaries and diaper changes,” they added. “They need to get over themselves and stop being so ridiculous and appreciate these grandparents.”
Another person stated that the mother completely overreacted, “If she didn’t mention it, I think it’s a very accurate assumption that the baby wasn’t taking any medication. And as for the one thing he didn’t have before, it was ibuprofen, not crack cocaine, for God’s sake.”
Another wrote: “I guess if you trust the people who care for your baby, you trust that they will take care of your baby too…” At that age, my children were using calpol and nurofen for their teeth. I wouldn’t have worried if their grandparents had given them some while they were suffering. “I would be more angry if they left them in pain,” he said.
Source: Daily Mail
