A relationship guru has given expert advice on what to do when you’re in a love triangle.
Kate Mansfield, a UK-based relationship and dating teacher, told FEMAIL that the love triangle scenario often says a lot about one’s self-esteem.
Kate described the situation as a “world of pain” for almost everyone involved and said it’s best to keep a love triangle in the bud before it does too much damage.
He explained that it rarely has a happy ending and that it’s best to leave before someone gets hurt.
Relationship expert Kate Mansfield describes love triangles as a “world of pain” for people involved and shared her top tips for getting rid of them forever (stock image)
Why do we fall into love triangles?
In reality, according to Kate, people are unlikely to accidentally “fall” into a love triangle, and their love lives are often dominated by deep insecurity.
“People who find themselves in an unhappy relationship scenario, especially a love triangle, need help learning to consciously create the kind of love life that will make them truly happy.”
Kate described the love triangle as “a world of pain, desire, and drama,” adding that looking inward can often explain why someone is in such a situation.
“It’s often a sign of deprivation in yourself and the other, and also a fear of attachment for both parties,” she explains.
Kate added: “Love triangles often develop between two people who reflect some kind of emotional dysfunction or unresolved trauma.”
Will you ever be able to have a happy relationship after a love triangle?
For those in a love triangle, Kate has some bad news: It’s unlikely you’ll get the result you think you want.
Kate said: “On very rare occasions, they can develop into a lasting relationship, but it’s a painful and difficult road to love. I wouldn’t recommend it. ‘
“I would never advise you to get into a love triangle no matter how strong the connection was, I would always move on and find someone else,” she added.
For the person who feels in love with two people, this is most likely a sign of an intimacy problem that cannot be resolved by starting a relationship with either person. .
“You may be in the wrong relationship, but to make a good and informed decision, it’s probably best to be alone for a while, see who is best for you,” Kate advised.
What should you do if you are stuck in a love triangle?
For Kate, the answer is simple: focus on yourself.
‘Start investing in your personal development. Seek professional help to discover why you were drawn into such a difficult and painful situation.”
Kate (pictured) says that people in love triangles are often emotionally unavailable in one way or another, noting that the situation rarely has a happy ending for everyone involved.
“If you find yourself competing for someone married or committed, ask yourself: Is this a pattern? Why don’t I really think I deserve love and commitment?
“It’s a form of self-denial and it’s always a choice, not something you accidentally get into.”
Kate added that she never advises people to wait for someone else because that could lead to heartbreak.
“If you’re going to do it, you’ll be together when the time comes,” she said.
Most of the time, love triangles can occur during the dating phase when none of the people in the triangle are in a committed relationship.
Sometimes, however, when a person cheats on their spouse with another person, the situation can manifest itself as an extramarital affair.
For people in this situation, Kate’s advice is clear.
“It’s possible for a relationship to turn into a serious one, but it’s very rare and you really want it on your conscience? Can you trust your partner in the future knowing that your partner is ready to cheat?
“Don’t fool yourself into saying it’s a one-time thing, it’s an indicator of that person’s character. Be careful!’
He added that only 1% of relationships actually end in marriage, so keep in mind that you may find yourself falling in love with someone who has been cheated on before.
“The odds aren’t high,” Kate said.
How to get out of a love triangle?
“There’s no shortage of great singles out there,” said Kate, advising people to date and explore with someone after breaking up with a love triangle.
She added that for people who have a hard time making unhealthy choices in their love lives, it’s no shame to seek professional help to understand why they’re doing it.
Most importantly, Kate wants people to think about how they got into this situation in the first place.
“If you’ve been caught in a love triangle, try to forgive yourself and the other person and look honestly at yourself and why you chose it,” she said.
Kate added: “We often feel that love is not a choice but a feeling that overwhelms us.
“If that’s the case, it will benefit you to learn about your unconscious patterns and what a healthy relationship is.”
He said that for people who come out of a love triangle and find happy and loving relationships, there is hope on the horizon.
“Start with yourself, try to live yourself fully, and set boundaries,” Kate said.
Source: Daily Mail
