Through the stars: 5 steps that will lead to popularity and success

The idealization of images in social networks led to the pursuit of material values. We are working for a better life than it is now. We are looking for a job with a good salary, we buy clothes and accessories that emphasize the high situation, make stylish photos and videos on the blog. We want to be popular.

The creators of personal development and business courses continue to contain good formulations on increasing income. But is everything too simple? We understood the issue of success with Gestalt therapist Valentina Lipskaya, a psychologist.

Valentina Lipskaya, Psychologist, Gestalt-therapist

Success is not only related to targets, money or recognition. This is an internal situation that begins with thinking and habits. As a clinical psychologist, I know that there are many breakthroughs in us.

Five installations to help change your life

“I shouldn’t be perfect to be valuable”. Perfectionism is a trap that prevents growth. Real success comes from tests, errors and flexibility. Let you work in the application and don’t expect ideal conditions.

“Mistakes are part of the road, not the end”. Failures are not confirming your failure, but signals that show that you are on motion. Successful people “fall and get up” and not just win.

“I am responsible for my choice”. The victim of the conditions cannot grow. The installation of responsibility makes you an active player, not an observer of your own life.

“I don’t know everything but I can work”. Don’t be willing to learn the flexibility of thinking and more importantly, more innate abilities. A successful person is always a student.

“My mental health is the basis of the result”. It is impossible to go to the target for a long time by ignoring fatigue, anxiety and internal conflicts. Success is resistant when only one person is in contact with himself.

Remember: The issue is not only where you go, but also in which situation you are. If you start to live in accordance with the attitudes listed, you will not only realize how your behavior is transformed, but also how the personality itself is transformed.

With the fear of mistakes for solid self and acceptance, flexibility and personal responsibility, you will revive thought and form the basis of a mature, sustainable nature. Fear of failure will disappear, the habit of comparing yourself with others will be separated, internal support will emerge and the ability to go.

Over time, you will be more confident, calm and more conscious. Learn to think strategic. Before the future you can change the alarm curiously, you will contact yourself instead of printing, and instead of the race – respect yourself and your skills.

And most importantly – you will stop measuring success only with external results. You will feel inside: the clarity, freedom, energy and feeling you really live in.

The destruction of obstacles in communication will also help to increase self -confidence. Previously, we explained how to get rid of the fears and doubts that intervened in interaction with men.