A young woman mocked her husband on a Bunnings trip, forcing him to pose in front of a “gas lighter” sign.
New Zealand couple Sav and Mark posted a video on TikTok where the 22-year-old explains that “men are cheap”.
Her 44-year-old husband rolled his eyes as he posed next to the sign, which is also a term for someone controlling a toxic relationship.
A young woman mocked her husband on a Bunnings trip, causing him to pose in front of a “gas lighter” sign.
Although the couple never planned to meet face-to-face, they met on Tinder before transferring their friendship to Facebook.
“Low prices are just the beginning,” one woman laughed.
“I would give at least $10 for Mark,” one of the couple’s fans said in the video.
“Sold to the highest bidder,” said his wife.
$5.30? Why pay when you can get it for free? said another fan.
What is gas lighting?
Therapist Lesley McPherson said gaslighting is associated with “power and manipulation” because it causes the perpetrator to “question his own reality” in the victim.
He said people with self-centered attitudes often engage in such emotionally manipulative behavior to “protect their ego”, aligning their perspective of reality with “little consideration of how much you’ve hurt another person.”
In other cases, gaslighting can occur between friendships and family relationships, where one person makes certain statements to make another person anxious or confused.
Deviation is also considered a form of gaslighting, for example, in which the person surrenders to a situation that made you feel bad, or refers to something that happened years ago.
“An example of this would be taking the time to say, ‘We need to talk about this problem,’ and then move on to ‘You did well,’ instead of addressing the problem,” he said.
In such a situation, Ms. McPherson said, you cannot respond and remove yourself from the conversation or refer to the original topic discussed in the first place and notice how they responded.
The couple, who are 20 years apart, jokingly says that their relationship is great and that they “found their person”.
Others joked that they weren’t so sure they had picked the “right tool for the job.”
“Where can I get my money back?” a woman laughed.
While many people made fun of the couple after they shared the video, some were more serious.
“I’ve had a free gas lighter for eight years,” one woman said.
Some even turned the joke around.
“No gaslighting, you invented it to make me feel bad,” one man said.
The video has been viewed more than 300,000 times after quickly going viral.
The couple previously talked about how they met on Tinder before they “became Facebook friends”.
They “never planned to meet up” but they were at the same club one night and they “clicked”, so Sav kept the relationship going.
What are the most common toxic symptoms of gas lighting to watch out for?
Gas lighters use a number of “techniques” to control them, including:
Pretend they don’t understand when they understand – Even though you are very transparent and clear in your actions or reasons, they may act as if they completely misunderstand what you are saying or doing.
Label your thoughts crazy or fanciful – someone with gasoline might tell you things like ‘this never happened’. For example, they may say something to you one day and vehemently refuse to say it the next day.
Question the other person’s memory of events when they remember correctly – same as above, they may constantly question your version of events until you doubt yourself.
Pretending to forget what really happened when you really remember – this also relates to the other two points. You may remember an event clearly, but they may categorically deny that it happened.
reject promises you know they made – Gaslighters like to make promises to people, they just deny they made them. It is a classic mind game that confuses and confuses the buyer.
belittle the other person’s feelings too sensitively when their reaction is somehow normal.
Source: Lesley McPherson
She said it took a year to convince Mark that she was the right girl, and two years later they moved in together.
Mark, 44, revealed that the young woman was the first person he lived with, but things went so well that they decided to get married.
They now use TikTok and Youtube to show off their relationships and stamp out the idea of ”age difference”.
Daily Mail Australia understands that the video was made as a joke and that the young woman was not actually accusing her husband of abusing her.
Where to look for help?
National Sexual Assault Counseling Service Domestic Violence 24-Hour Helpline 1800 COMPARED with 1800 737 732
24-hour emergency shelter helpline on 1800 800 588
Home Safe Helpline on 1800 633 937
SHE (Free and confidential help and support) on 6278 9090
Sexual violence support services after 6231 1811 or 6231 1817
Domestic Violence Help and Crisis Service 1800 608 122
Bravehearts – Support for sexual violence against children on 1800 BRAVE 1
lifeline at 13 11 14
Men who may have anger, relationship, or parenting issues should contact the Men’s Reference Service on 1300 766 491 or the Being That Guy Helpline at 1300 243 413.
