A doctor has uncovered simple tools everyone should know to navigate their feelings of fear, sadness, and stress, or the complications that come with processing pain or dealing with criticism.
Physician Julie Smith worked individually as a clinical psychologist for ten years before realizing she could help people collectively by sharing her most requested advice.
The 38-year-old mother of three has written a book called “Why No One Told Me Before” that tackles the problems everyone faces, such as low self-esteem, “low” moods, and forming healthy relationships. †
Dr. Julie Smith worked as an individual psychologist for ten years before realizing she could help people en masse by giving her the advice she most wanted.
Speaking to FEMAIL from his home in England, the author said he touched on feelings that everyone has had at some point in their life.
“I’ve had a lot of people come to me for a few sessions, and I went ahead with these suggestions and it made a significant difference,” he said.
“It’s amazing how many people thank me and wonder out loud why they didn’t get this advice before.
“I chose the title of the book that way because it all seems so obvious or useful information, once you learn it you wonder why it wasn’t published sooner,” he said.
Other helpful tips include explaining whether you were born with your doctor or not, as well as tips for boosting your own motivation.
“People tend to think that motivation is something that comes naturally, and if they don’t have that drive, there’s nothing they can do about it. But they can,” he said.
“It’s amazing how many people thank me and wonder out loud why they’ve never had this advice before,” she said.
Dr. Julie originally had no intention of writing a book – the idea came after it became an online hit.
“I decided to make videos with these tips on YouTube and thought it would be one of those projects that got out of hand, but it never did.”
In fact, her popularity has exploded and she has more than three million followers on her “Dr Julie” social media accounts.
He admits that this was probably due to timing, as he started shooting the videos only a few months before the COVID pandemic started.
“As barriers began, more and more people began to seek answers to their mental health,” he said, adding that there has been a wave of mental health deterioration due to general health anxiety, financial anxiety and rapid unplanned socialization.
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“We are living through a time when so many people are traumatized at the same time, something that has never happened before on this scale in living memory.
“There have been other big events like the stock market crashes that affected many people, but nothing has left a mark like the pandemic,” he said.
Dr. Julie was flooded with calls for help from around the world and stubbornly responded in her informative videos.
He noticed a large increasing trend in people seeking advice on how to deal with common forms of mental health.
So she wrote her book in solitary confinement while her husband was teaching his three children in the next room.
“Poor man, I heard you persuade them to sit down with their pencils while I sit here and write,” he laughed.
Therefore, the book also touches on the relationship pressure that many people feel even more intensely during quarantine.
“If you have a difficult relationship with someone, especially someone you live with, it’s easier to let go if you only see them for a few hours a day.
“There were people texting me because they were really struggling with the block, and it was fixed for a few hours with their spouses, friends, roommates, parents at the time,” he said.
Dr. Julie explained that the basic emotions we encounter in life are intensified during the pandemic.
“There is a sense of trauma surrounding this whole epidemic. I think that’s how most people feel, a reaction to trauma.”
Dr. Written with adults in mind, Julie was created as an easy-to-follow guide for people to get up and down based on the advice they need.
Dr. Julie says it’s interesting to see so many people seeking help for many of the same problems.
Five years ago there were no “general issues” or emotions: people would come in because of individual pain and trauma.
Dr. Julie says people who take a great interest in mental health are a step in the right direction.
“I want people to respect mental health as well as physical health.
“People who have experienced mental illness such as depression or anxiety point out that it can have as much of an impact as physical illness or injury.”
She says she wants workplaces to recognize mental health and be more flexible in meeting the needs of those who suffer from it.
“This may not mean free time, but if they are experiencing a breakdown, it is clear that they need improvement.
“Other issues may include implementing a plan established by their psychologists,” he said.
The problem can be as simple as being aware of the main triggers, needing longer breaks or shorter days, or more communication.
Dr. Julie is available in bookstores and online, and is available as a physical book, audiobook, and digital book.
Source: Daily Mail
