You recently had a relationship without asking yourself too many questions, as soon as the thermometers began to display temperatures that were too critical go out with the skirt / sandals combo? Without a doubt, you’ve just started a “plaid love” relationship! Don’t worry, it’s not an STI, it’s just the time of year.
It is a phenomenon that came directly from the United States, which starts in October and ends in February. it’s about cuff season. The colder months of the year make singles of all ages want to find a partner, so as not to be alone in front of the fire. It is very serious and democratized, since a study has been done on the subject 2000 individual participants in France by Hotels.com.
So, to combine business with pleasure, the online hotel booking site Hotels.com called in clinical psychologist Estelle Dossin. Together, they envisioned a challenge to allow couples under six months to sense very quickly if their relationship was going to last after turn of the seasonNot.
A competition to create shared memories
The concept is very simple: register with the partner of your choice and choose the hotel that best suits your personality. List three things you would like to do together on vacation. Five exceptional locations are offered to choose from, and each one stands out for the activities and treatments made available to the lucky ones.
The goal is to get out of your comfort zone for a night, to forget the hassles of everyday life and discover each other in a different environmentto share moments out of time.
Estelle Dossin will then assign a hotel to each couple based on what they would like to do together, a relaxing or better sporting weekend. In short, the perfect place for them! The couple whose 24 hours have gone by with the fewest hitches will be the lucky winner of an extra night. This will have to be seen thanks to a snapshot taken by the lovers.
You know what you need to do to test your crush! If you have any doubts about this type of challenge, you can imagine that among the readers of Losewas a person who tested the night in the hotel from the beginning of the relationship. She agreed to answer some of my questions to shed some light on this risk-taking which ultimately proved conclusive.
A weekend in a hotel at the beginning of a relationship, good or bad idea?
To miss. Before getting to the heart of the matter, can you introduce yourself?
Mina. My name is Mina, I’m 27 today, but at the time of the story I’m going to talk about I was 25 and I lived in Rennes. I am still a nurse and, as for my partner, his name is Édouard. Today we live together!
To miss. How did you meet?
Mina. He’s a childhood friend I’ve known since I was seven or eight. Our holiday / family homes are located in the same place in southern Brittany. Then we grew up and started throwing lots of parties together. I’ve always found him uninteresting, a little snooty, really not my type of guy.
It was during an evening at his home that everything changed. I was too lazy to go, but my friends were there and I wanted to see them. We met that evening, it was love at first sight without much discussion during that evening. In fact, we had seen each other a week before, and we both found ourselves in a bar because we stood up. According to him, it was at this very moment that he realized that he wanted to go a long way with me. For my part, I have had a very unpleasant and a very long time. I don’t know what happened, but I think timing played a role.
To miss. What period was it?
Mina. I left on October 19th for ten days for a family vacation in the south of France. We actually met three days before this separation, we didn’t spend any nights together, just a few coffees. I was wondering if I really wanted to be with him… Then, when I got back, we left on November 5th, both for the weekend in Honfleur.
It was a combination of circumstances, he was returning to work in Paris and, for my part, it was the time when I was unemployed. I was returning to live with my parents in Brittany. We had to find a place to meet. I refused to go to Paris so as not to get into his intimacy too quickly, and I didn’t necessarily want them to come from my parents. So, we took a hotel to find ourselves with no one, plus, I had lost a bet, so I had to invite him for a weekend.
To miss. Looking back, was this a good idea or not?
Mina. Yes and no. The stupidity we did is to arrive very late on Friday, at 11:30 pm at the hotel. When you find someone you’ve been dating for a while and find yourself at 11:30 pm in a hotel room, it’s very embarrassing. It would have been better if we had started with one day, arriving on Saturday morning, starting with breakfast.
The positive side is that you have fun and you are not bothered by your daily life, by the calls, by the relatives you might meet on the street. There is no awkward moment because you are in a bubble that gives you time to discover yourself.
To miss. Would you recommend the experience to a young couple?
Mina. 100%! There is a real connection with the person by stepping out of their comfort zone. For 48 hours, you have to talk. In the worst case, if you are tired of the person, it does not matter, because you are discovering a new city and there are always a thousand things to do.
I was still asking myself questions and saying to myself: “If I get bored at the end of this stay, I will never see him again in my life.” On the other hand, if I have a good weekend and we laugh, it will last. “
In addition, a night or two is enough to know if the person likes you, if he attracts you, if he is in accordance with your values. I really took the time to dig deeper. Subsequently, at the end of our weekend, we resumed our daily life. Then it’s up to you to work to keep the relationship alive. Then the months pass and you realize that the relationship continues, without too many certainties, but it made me feel good to see him.
Mina’s experience is certainly not an isolated case e today he has been living an idyll with Édouard for a year and a half. By participating in this lottery, you will learn more about yours squash, but also of you. Some habits may displease you or, on the contrary, make you fall more under his spell.
This is ideal for getting to know yourself better, especially in a situation that feels awkward to you and will likely learn to put the details into perspective. In summary, there are only positives to be drawn from itand yours cuff season it can extend for several years.
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Source: Madmoizelle
Ashley Root is an author and celebrity journalist who writes for The Fashion Vibes. With a keen eye for all things celebrity, Ashley is always up-to-date on the latest gossip and trends in the world of entertainment.
