Using, an parent student hits me on my nerves, what should I do?

Daronne is the Queen of the Council not if against a large dose of more or less thin humor. Here he returned to fly to the help of a reader!

The question for Daronne

Dear Daronne,

My daughter has returned to the CP this year and everything goes perfectly for her. He has already made friends and friends, he has no concern for learning and learns at his pace. Everything seems to be all pink but … every time I put him down, or when I come to recover him, the mother of one of his friends keeps my leg for twenty minutes and floods me with “my daughter already knows how to read and write”, “he knew how to count up to 100 at the age of 2 years”, “Chinese speaks” … and I can’t do it anymore!

He may be proud of his daughter, I feel. Except that after each small phrase there is an “and yours, speaks another language or only French?”, Ongers to answer that “no, my daughter is not equipped, sorry”.

I hate competition and reminds me of the bad memories of childhood … I would like to send him to shine, but I don’t want to appear Malpolia and above all, our girls are good friends, I will regret having made a big mistake … however, I am on the point, so please dear Daronne, help me!

Anne-Lise

Daronne’s answer

My little louse (and yes, we are contextual and realistic, has returned to school!),

I feel very nervous and you know what: I understand you! I feel you, as the British say. I am like you: I already find it difficult to build relationships with the other parents’ parents, but if they are unbearable “my son is better than your” it is even worse.

Option n. 1: close the listening

So, I would advise you to tell him his four truths, his eyes in the eyes, between the jar of colored pencils and the salt dough. Except that here, you have a problem: you don’t have much room for Maneuver because your girls are good friends. Let’s face it, send the mother of her best girl’s mother could make your cat very unhappy. So it’s not an option, we agree.

So here’s what you can do: close the listening and agree. A simple frozen smile and a normal top of advantage will be enough to make him think that you listen to him religiously, when you are actually making your shopping list for dinner. This is, in my opinion, the best option, in the event that your interlocutor does not relaunch yourself on your daughter’s skills …

Option n. 2: Be honest but … politely!

But it doesn’t seem to be like this! If, despite your titles, a “And you, your daughter makes you swing?” You can also tell him discreetly and politely, and above all without the presence of your children, who find wonderful that his daughter is in the lead, but that you will not lower yourself to play better because every child goes to his pace. But, even if you obviously do not plan to make a friend of it, to be too honest, you risk up to upset it.

Option n. 3: breathe very strong for the belly and do with

So you seem a little blocked, my dear Anne-Lise. Is it up to you, what is the best and priority: your mental health or the well -being of your daughter? You will have your answer between spreading the first mothers of the class or making this little effort 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes in the evening to preserve your daughter’s friendship. In your place, I would make the effort, breathing a lot and for my stomach and taking care to refuse any invitation to dinner or meet outside the school life that it would not be a birthday of children …

So I wish you good luck, because parents like the one populate more densely than you think the schools of our little ones …

The bisect,

Ta Daronne.