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5 phrases to teach your children to teach them to defend themselves in a community

5 phrases to teach your children to teach them to defend themselves in a community
5 phrases to teach your children to teach them to defend themselves in a community

How can we help our children defend themselves without becoming tyrants themselves? We don’t have any miracle answers, but these 5 phrases might help.

It is difficult, as a parent or person responsible for a young child, to see him compare himself to other specimens of his age, or even older. Sometimes, he can be mistreated, mistreated, rejected, and we don’t necessarily know when to intervene, as adults. While harassment as such is easier to spot thanks to free speech and measures put in place in schools, there is a small blind spot that can quickly make us nervous.

But it’s never too late to teach our children to defend themselves, so that they set their own limits early on.

5 Phrases to Teach Your Child to Set Boundaries

Kids can be mean to each other, that’s a fact. Not all of them, not with all of them, but sometimes they try to assert their dominance by mistreating their peers. While it may be hard from the outside to see your little Jean-Kevin getting beaten up by other little blonde heads under 4 feet tall, we can help.

According to Jaimie Bloch, an American child psychologist, there are five important phrases to teach your child, to help him gain self-confidence and give him the foundation of his own authority:

  1. “It’s my turn, I’ll give it to you when I’m done.” »
  2. “I don’t like being called that. I want you to call me by my name.”
  3. “You are responsible for your body and I am responsible for mine.”
  4. “I’ll find someone else to play with.” »
  5. “I will ask (name of responsible adult) to help us. »

Unfortunately, these are not magic phrases, and your child, if he has difficulty asserting himself and expressing himself, may not be able to say them at the first refusal. But it is a long-term job that we should try to do at home for as long as necessary, to help him find his voice and assert it.


Raising your child with kindness and teaching him to have self-confidence is not easy, especially when he has to deal with other children who do not have the same way of being as him, all in a violent society. But it’s a fight worth fighting, delicately, so that limits are set and he protects himself as much as possible.

If your child is not ready, continue to believe in his ability to assert himself and gain respect, help him to speak, even if at first he will have to stay within the family circle. Little by little, strong in this trust that will be anchored in him, he will be able to make others listen to him and will be able to respect his limits.

Obviously, if the limits are exceeded and we are no longer talking about rejection or “childish confusion”, but about harassment and/or violence, one must not hesitate to contact the competent authorities and ask for help from a psychologist.

This is my last article here, after nearly five years as a parenting journalist. I have a great thought for all these great people that I have been able to meet over the years, from my colleagues and sisters (the kiss to FabFlo who let me pass through the window, to Clémence who taught me so much, to Mymy, to my helper Virginie and to all the others I have loved working with) to readers and (rarer) readers. If you want to continue knowing what I write we can meet on Instagram.

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