I penetrate my boyfriend regularly and it has been a revolution in our sex life

“I am a 31 year old woman and I have been in a relationship for 6 years with Alban (name has been changed). I would say that we form a solid and rather classic couple from the outside: we just bought an apartment together, we have a cat and plans for the future together. If today I want to talk about our sexuality it is because the departure from the classic patterns of heterosexual sexuality has changed my overall vision of sex and pleasure.

A classic and beautiful meeting

With Alban everything happened easily: a date on Tinder, confidences, one, two, three evenings spent together and immediately the obvious that we wanted to continue our journey together. The first year we slept together a lot, but we didn’t talk much about our sexuality. Everything seemed natural between us, I enjoyed every time I had sex (which had never happened with my exes) and I found it incredible. What else ?

Then the crazy passion of the beginning has subsided, we slowed down the pace of the relationship and even though nothing had changed, I started to enjoy it less. This is where Alban asked me more specifically what my wishes were and I had to reply something like ” I don’t have any unusual desires, but I find it sometimes a little boring that it’s always the same thing.“

It started with one finger

At first he seemed a little offended, then he told me that we didn’t always have to follow the same pattern, that he liked to penetrate me, but that we could concentrate on other practices, and that furthermore, speaking of that, he himself wanted to explore his prostatic pleasure. He added: “I would like you to caress my anus or even give me a finger while you suck me, for example”
The request didn’t shock me, but when I first acted I didn’t act proudly. I felt totally inexperienced, numb and therefore not truly excited by the scene. She guided my finger and pretty quickly I felt she was about to come. It was much quicker than usual and, once I got over the apprehension, it was quite fun. Quite fast, it has become part of our usual practices. Our sexuality has evolved along this path, for a time focusing more on oral sex and regularly skipping the penis-vagina penetration part. Until one day, after coming, he admitted to me, a little embarrassed, that he had always fantasized about a woman penetrating him with a strap-on.

My boyfriend, sodomy and me

At first I said it was too much for me. I had always imagined sodomy in a hetero couple as a practice in which the man penetrates the woman, and I immediately felt a bit disgusted when considering a role reversal. I found it strange… However, I continued to stimulate her anus during our intercourse and, little by little, I made progress until she told me that I was curious to try. One day, on vacation, we passed by a sex shop and, of course, I approached the strap-ons and told him: Hey, shall we get one? He made a happy puppy face and immediately said yes. I chose a model of dildo that has an L shape : I insert one part of the vibrator and on the other side there is a vibrator with which I can take it. We didn’t use it right away, I think we were both apprehensive about taking action.

Our first sodomy

One day we started a relationship and he whispered to me that he wanted me to accept him. I really wanted it too, but not everything went as planned. First, contrary to what we thought, the vibrator was too heavy for my vagina to hold, so I had to have a hand underneath to support it.
And then I was used to penetrating her anus with my fingers. There I didn’t feel well what I was doing and this dildo was bigger and wider… While I was penetrating it he slowed me down and told me it was a little painful. I was mortified, I wanted to give him pleasure, not pain. I suggested he stop, but he wanted to continue, we took our time and seeing him writhe with pleasure, moaning, excited me to the point that I proceeded to come by sodomizing him. When we finished, he kissed me, I heard a an immense wave of love for him and him and he told me again that he loved me very much. I felt like I had reached a whole new level of intimacy by experiencing this with him.

How has sodomy revolutionized my sex life?

Today we don’t use this dildo regularly, maybe once every 2 or 3 months, but that doesn’t stop it from having It revolutionized my sex life. Before Alban, I realize that I had NEVER seriously questioned what sexuality could be. I simply didn’t see any other horizon than what all my lovers had offered me: kisses, foreplay, penetrations, we stop when the boy just comes. I also tell myself that at the beginning, if I was afraid to take care of Alban’s anus, it was because I was tormented by the fear of being a bad lover. Finally, repeating the same pattern every time is reassuring because the fear of a poor performance vanishes… Even though I know that we are not in bed to perform, but to have fun.

Also, if I’m honest, sodomizing my love made me reflect on my view of penetration. If they had asked me much earlier if I found the principle of penetration humiliating, I would have said no. However, when he suggested this practice, I felt ashamed, but I couldn’t help but think that it might degrade him to see him in this position. Today I tell myself that it was stupid to think that and that, in my head, the act of penetration is an act of love and pleasure like all the others.

In the end, it was a long trip. I find it fantastic to imagine that our sexuality is like this today, but that tomorrow it could evolve further. The only limit is no longer the norm, but our imagination.

* Names have been changed

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