10/10/10 Method: What if it's the key to learning how to put things into perspective and improve your mental health?

When you have to make a decision, it’s easy to get lost in the maze of anxiety, for fear of making a mistake. But the American writer Suzy Welch offers a playful solution to be able to position yourself without worries. Her name? The law of 10/10/10.

Whether it’s quitting your job, starting over in a foreign country, initiating a breakup, or changing paths… There are questions more complex than others that require intense reflection before you can start or not. To facilitate this process and allow those who are going through it to limit their anxiety in the face of these various problems, a writer, Suzy Welch came up with a simple and effective approach: the 10/10/10 law.

10/10/10 Method: What if it’s the key to learning how to put things into perspective and improve your mental health?

The 10/10/10 law in a nutshell

The objective of the 10/10/10 method is to initiate a reflection on the impact that each decision can have in the life of the person who is about to make it. The question that needs to be asked then is: “How will this decision affect me in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years”? Obviously no one has the ability to see the future, but this method allows you to put things into perspective by asking yourself questions that can enlighten your mind to a truth you feel in harmony with.

Learn to manage negative thoughts

When it comes to making a decision, we often imagine the worst. And that’s what worries us! By focusing on negative thoughts, we end up living this moment of transition with difficulty or sometimes even without making any decision, for fear it will be bad. Result? We stay in a situation that doesn’t really suit us, telling ourselves it’s better than a future without any control. To this specific problem, the psychologist Ana Gutiérrez Laso has a solution that she entrusts to Vogue UK :

“Stop imagining the worst all the time: try to develop a more realistic way of thinking, where it’s not just negativity that tips the scales. Look at the situation objectively and evaluate the different possible scenarios. Don’t just consider the option worst, the one you fear the most. Don’t let yourself be distracted by your emotions and react automatically, without thinking.”

If this method doesn’t provide you with the right solution for you or if you have difficulty getting started, don’t hesitate to talk to a specialist, who will be able to listen to you and guide you towards a more suitable method.