Do you know what a father who “does his part” looks like? Come on, let’s show you

It’s tiring to always have to explain everything. But once it’s not customary to see a man actually engage in running his own home, it doesn’t hurt.

A father who does his part at home? It is not too early

On TikTok, a father explained how he was preparing to leave the house for 6 days so that his partner, who will have to take care of the children during his absence, doesn’t feel overwhelmed.

In the video that has several million views, the man explains it Reducing your partner’s mental load is not something that only happens when both parents are present at home, but also when one of them has to be absent. To do this, he describes the tasks he performed before his departure:

• Clean the house so that it is clean before you leave
• She folds and irons her laundry so her partner isn’t faced with a basket full of dirty laundry
• Prepare meals for the children in advance
• Also prepare children’s clothing in advance, allowing for the weather so that the clothes are suitable for the temperatures
• Book a hotel room for your partner when you return, so that she can breathe after looking after and managing the children alone for the 6 days

We can say to ourselves by watching this video: wow, doesn’t he want a medal too for doing what all women have always done? ” Yes, it’s true. Women and mothers statistically have a much higher involvement and mental load than men, within a heterosexual couple, even more so when there are children. We can remember this 80% of women declare that they dedicate at least one hour a day against 36% of men to take care of household chores.

But this video could, we hope, for educational purposeshelp fathers who would like do their part and not helpbut who don’t know where to start, since they haven’t necessarily been taught. Not even women, eh, but everything needs a start.

What changes here, videos or posts on social media where we can see men putting themselves on stage to explain that they participate in household chores, for example with the hashtag #jesuisviril that had caused a deserved hype is that this TikTok is simple and full of common sense. This father does not seek praise, explains his own organization, in a house that seems quite well deconstructed.

The man does not address the women saying ” hey, look like me, i’m not like the others, #notallmen and all “. NO. It just says ” I’m leaving for 6 days away from home, my wife will do everything because managing the children isn’t easy, here’s what I do to lighten these moments as much as possible “.

It’s just a shame, as usual, that a man has to talk to others for the message to get through. Can we be sure that this video would have had the same impact if his girlfriend had made it? Not sure. But hey, that’s a start. We just need to up a gear, guys. In 2023 it is urgent.