A woman sparked a heated debate online after her brother-in-law announced that she had named her new dog after him, with some saying it was flattering and others telling her to cut him out of their life.
The anonymous poster took to mumsnet, the UK parenting forum to share her story and get the opinions of others.
She explained that her husband always had a fun relationship with her brother and they “made the mic” with each other.
However, things have gone too far after choosing the new family dog in her honor and she feels “seriously embarrassed and hurt” and fears people will make fun of her.
Some commenters insisted that she was too sensitive and insisted that she continue, but others agreed that it was offensive and said they would stop talking to her.
Although the poster says they enjoy “taking control” of each other, their relationship has now fallen apart (archive image)
The anonymous poster from the UK took to Mumsnet to share her frustrations, revealing that her brother-in-law had named his dog after him, and that his wife regretted that they thought he was overly sensitive.
Explaining the situation, she wrote: “We get along well with my brother’s older brother, but not so much lately.
We argued and gambled on anything and everything, but this was usually limited to just our family. [and] their family is there, that’s my other half and my kids and it’s the same for him.
“A year ago, her brother-in-law retired at the age of 50, and his son and wife, who live in the same house, decided to get a dog. This was about a month ago. They gave the dog the same name as mine and found it very offensive.
“My other half said they always loved my name and that’s why they did it.
“When we met at a wedding last week, I told them they could choose another name out of millions, they just smiled and said it was a beautiful name.
“They all had smiles on their faces. My kids laughed at first, but they got it and told me to ignore it.
The other half always says I’m too “sensitive” and “hypocritical”. For example, I am my brother-in-law and I often make fun of his wife, but as I said, only when two families are left alone.
“I feel shame, pain, and fear that others will find out and laugh at me. Am I unreasonable?’
Some participants felt that the situation was not so bad and that the poster should not show that they were bothered by it.
Some said it was okay and the poster shouldn’t waste time worrying.
One wrote: ‘They named the dog after you. And then? You don’t have it and you can’t escape it, so let it go.’
Another added: ‘I don’t understand why this is so important.
“People don’t call their dogs by names they hate, they’re names they love, and dogs (in most cases) are loved and part of the family.
“I never understood why people got so angry.”
And the third wrote: ‘They seem to turn you on so easily and they think it’s funny that everything scares you.
“Also you seem a little paranoid, how do you think they train their rabid dog to bark at you? Showing your photo? I’d get over it, they won’t if they see you’re not excited, but as long as you keep responding to them, they’ll continue to enjoy hitting you.
For some, the thought of naming a beloved pet was very flattering.
Others actually took it as a compliment and didn’t understand why anyone was offended.
One wrote: ‘Take this as a compliment. The joke is on them because the dog is a beloved member of the family.’
Another asked, ‘Am I the only one to be praised?’ He accepted by writing.
And the third added: “Why will you be offended?”
Others, meanwhile, felt that the brother-in-law had behaved horribly and the poster would have the right to ban him from their life.
However, others were outraged on behalf of the poster and admitted that the situation was troubling.
Someone suggested banning relatives from his life: ‘I recommend you go to NC’ [non contact] with them.’
Another said: ‘YANBU, they sound like a damn smile.
“Don’t invite them anymore and don’t go to them.”
A third agreed wholeheartedly, adding: ‘Sounds like a great excuse to spend time with them.
“If your doctor wants to see you, say, ‘No, you’re bringing the kids. I don’t want to mess with the dog and have a nice quiet time alone at home”.
Source: Daily Mail
