One woman revealed that her mother called her “selfish” for refusing to share her inheritance with her half-siblings despite having a strained relationship.
The 20-year-old anonymous, believed to live in the United States, shared his story in a post on reddit. I’m on the A****** forum, looking for an “unbiased” opinion on whether it’s the right thing.
In a lengthy post, the woman explained that when she became pregnant at 14, she was kicked out of the house by her mother and raised by her aunt, who is her mother’s half-sister. Her mother, with whom she still maintains a difficult relationship, later remarried and adopted her new husband’s four children.
When his grandfather, who was his mother’s father but not his aunt, died, he left an important legacy that will last a lifetime.
His mother, however, insisted on giving some of the money to him, even though he could not get along with his half-siblings and had no relationship with his grandfather.
The 20-year-old anonymous, believed to be living in the United States, shared his story in a post on the Reddit forum Am I the A ******, seeking an “unbiased” view on whether he did. thing. he just did one thing. stock image
In her detailed post, the anonymous woman explained her complex family arrangement and explained why she did not share the inheritance.
The woman received a wave of support from other Reddit users who said they were fully entitled to use the money as she saw fit.
Describing their complicated relationship, he wrote: “I was five years old when my parents divorced. Otto, when my father died unexpectedly. Ten when my mother remarried a man who eventually became the father of four, whom she adopted.
‘When I understood the bottom line, I saw his mother playing for these kids. I was a restless teenager. I even got pregnant at the age of fourteen and was kicked out by my mother and stepfather.
Fortunately, she was able to count on the support of her maternal grandparents and aunt, who even quit their jobs in the army to care for her niece and baby.
“I see her as my mother and her children as my brothers,” the woman explained. “Everything I wanted my mother to do for me, my aunt did and more.
“Their children see me as a brother or sister and vice versa. He had also set aside a college fund for me, who was about to graduate from nursing school next year. He never made me feel like I was a child or a burden.’
Numerous commentators told the poster that he owed nothing to his adoptive siblings and that he should cut his birth mother out of his life.
Although he worked to improve his relationship with his birth mother, things got complicated when he left most of his grandfather’s estate in his will.
“My mom came up to me and asked how much I was thinking of giving to my (I think more) step-siblings because my grandfather had left them nothing,” she continued.
“I told him I wasn’t like that and that if anyone wins, it will be my aunt and my brothers, even though I know they won’t accept anything from me. I told my mother that her children were not my brothers.
“I don’t really have a relationship with them and they have dark ways. He called me a little selfish (something that rhymes with bookie). He and his family started harassing me, which made me sad.’
She concluded by saying that after her aunt visited her mother, the bullying had stopped, but she was still worried about “cheating” on her penniless stepsisters.
Many Reddit users speculated that if the poster gave some of the money to adoptive siblings, it wouldn’t have stayed the way his grandfather wanted.
The posters were unanimous in condemning the mother who threw the poster away when she was very young, saying she owed nothing to her half-siblings.
One even called the mother an “egg donor” and wrote: “NTA [not the a*****e] Drop your egg donor and don’t look back.
Another: ‘NTA. Your legacy is yours and yours alone. If you want to share it should go to whoever you think deserves it and only if you are willing to share it. If you are under pressure or guilty of sharing your inheritance, you should not share it.’
A third party agreed and wrote: ‘They do not own or entitle ANYTHING to your inheritance in any way, shape or form. Don’t feel guilty for following your grandfather’s wishes.’
According to many of the commentators who could not praise her enough, the main hero of the story was her aunt.
Others stated that if he wanted the grandfather’s money to be given to other siblings, he would have given it in his will.
One editor said: “NTA. The inheritance is yours and so you decide what to do with it and whether someone takes something. It’s just your decision.
“If your grandfather wanted to leave a legacy to his half-brothers he would have, but he didn’t.”
Another added: ‘No. Your grandfather left you his money because he wanted you to take it.’
Source: Daily Mail
