If you think there is something wrong with you because you do not have a partner or cannot be in a long-term relationship, then you may have an avoidant attachment style. Let’s figure out how to determine if this applies to you.
Avoidant attachment style refers to a psychological and emotional pattern in which a person tends to avoid emotional intimacy and ignore the importance of close relationships, often as a self-protective measure.
Symptoms of avoidant attachment type
- discomfort with closeness
- Inconsistency (avoiding conversations, canceling plans, staying secretive)
- Emphasized independence
- Avoiding conflicts instead of solving problems
- Emotional detachment or unavailability
- Inability to properly empathize with your partner or other people
- Unsuccessful attempts to express your feelings and thoughts with words
- Shallow speech (tendency to make small talk and sarcastic jokes)
- distrust of others
- Inability to show consistent emotional and physical affection
- Business or personal needs are put above all else
- Complete avoidance of close relationships
- Refusal of any help and support
- Irritation of the partner when being together for a long time
- Devaluation of a partner
- Intolerance towards the shortcomings of others
- Consciously looking for flaws in a partner, down to the smallest detail
How to have a relationship with avoidant attachment?
It is important for this type of person to become aware of their attachment type and how it prevents them from forming meaningful relationships. From this point on, the person can try to identify destructive patterns of behavior and change them.
Some ways to effectively manage an avoidant attachment relationship are to educate yourself, overcome discomfort, practice expressing emotions, and relying on others for help.
And of course, if you have found many of the symptoms of this type of attachment and feel that it is interfering with your life, then it would be a good idea to consult a psychologist rather than self-diagnose. It will help you understand yourself and correctly determine your attachment type.
Source: People Talk
Errol Villanueva is an author and lifestyle journalist who writes for The Fashion Vibes. With a passion for exploring the latest trends in fashion, food, travel, and wellness, Errol’s articles are a must-read for anyone interested in living a stylish and fulfilling life.
