The love ship is sinking: How do you know when it’s time to break up?

Frederick Beigbeder (52) concluded that love lasts three years and even wrote a book about it. “In love, it gets really worrying when the couple switches from porn to baby talk. It becomes noticeable very quickly: after a few months of living together, even the sounds stop. The brave macho with the booming bass voice begins to lisp like a baby in its mother’s arms. The husky-voiced femme fatale turns into a syrupy girl who mistakes her husband for a kitten. “Our love was ruined by the tone,” he wrote. The Fashion Vibes will tell you what other signs you should look out for that it’s time to break up.

You should ask for permission

It’s absolutely fine to respect your partner’s wishes and needs and try to consult with them. But from this category of “compromise” to “can I go to the party with my friends?” If it goes something like this, it’s time to think about it – you have the right to do whatever you want and you don’t need to ask permission from your partner.

You’re constantly on edge

You spend all your energy on how to please him, not on what gives you pleasure. And you constantly argue and curse with him. A happy relationship should bring joy, not cause premature graying of hair and constant trips to the pharmacy for sedatives.

you can’t be yourself

On a first date, 99% of people try to look better than they really are. They then free themselves and fall in love with each other as they are. But if you constantly have to monitor yourself and pretend for someone’s sake, it’s time to step up. If you are not loved for who you are, then you are not worthy.

You do not talk

Talking to your partner and discussing your problems rather than brushing them aside is the key to a happy relationship. Do you do your best to avoid serious conversations? Perhaps you are afraid of both the conversation itself and its consequences. Talk to him once and decide what you want from this relationship; continue or end.

makes you feel bad all the time

A partner should support his lover in everything. If this doesn’t happen and you constantly feel insecure, you need to get out of this relationship. After a while you will find someone who will help you open up.

not listening to you

Your work does not concern him, problems at home or at school do not bother him, and in principle he does not remember what you said. For my birthday, I wanted earrings and bought a bracelet. She said she loved flowers but couldn’t wait for a bouquet. So what is this? He doesn’t care about your opinion, so why are you still with him?

You fight often

What can I say, some people confuse constant swearing with passion. Remember once and for all: this is not so. If a day doesn’t pass without a fight, it means you can’t get used to each other.

You often think about the past rather than the future

After a year of dating, you remember how good it was in the beginning, you replay your first dates over and over in your mind, but you don’t want to think about the future at all? So you don’t see him with your partner.

You have to hide something

Do you hide receipts from beauty salons, shops and restaurants so as not to upset your boyfriend – does he always shout that you spend too much? It’s simple: He’s trying to control you, but you’re not happy about it.

you don’t trust him

You never know what to expect from him. He will go to a bar with his friends and return: sober, drunk, drunk, or not at all (underline as appropriate). You do not trust him and this is perhaps the main sign that the relationship is over.

Are you thinking of leaving…

…and that brings you relief. If you understand that you would be better off without him, why are you still with him?

Anastasia, 26

I dated a young man for two years and everything seemed fine, there was even talk of marriage. But I often caught myself thinking that I had to constantly adapt to it, make compromises, and eventually I stopped feeling free. I eventually realized I was going to be burned out by this relationship and broke up with him.

Katya, 24

On the second date, the guy told me: “I’ve never let any of my girlfriends go out with my friends without me.” At that very moment my trace disappeared – no one has the right to limit my communication with my friends.

Anthony, 26

All this goes for men too! Girls often go to extremes and believe that we should hang around them like bees around honey. Moreover, they are confident in their uniqueness. However, this is not the case. There are many good and free people in our time. So if they start forbidding me something, if they start dripping into my brain, or if they start ignoring, I don’t even ask again – I leave.

Artem Pashkin, psychologist

There may be numerous warning signs. The most important thing is to listen to the inner voice of reason, and if it says or even screams that something is wrong, then most likely it is. Intuition rarely fails in this type of situation. And it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or what you’ve been through together. Eventually all lives end, all hearts are broken, and caring is no advantage.