Two extra-Hardine pregnancies: the test that no one is talking about

My story is that of a 31 -year -old young woman for 5 years, who decides to have a son with her partner. You will tell me a trivial story? Well, not exactly: things were not as simple as the ones we hoped.

So far, the children had never really been my thing, but after some time with my partner, I started feeling ready and desired this new adventure. In January 2021, after more than 10 years of pill, We stopped any contraception.

A change of cycle and lively pain

With this stop, my cycle has changed. My usually long and abundant rules have become short and dispersed, until March when I started doing it He bleed a lot, for a long time and with pain at the limit of the bearable. After ten days, I ended up calling my doctor to warn him that something seemed abnormal.

While using it, I told her about our attempts to have a child. He prescribed a blood test and some analyzes, telling me that he would remind me of a problem. A few days later, when a vocal message leaves me, I don’t listen to it: stressed, I imagine the worst and I chose rather to call it directly. It is there that it announces me, all playful, that I am pregnant. What ? Already ? How is it possible? Heuuu … but … are you expecting?

The tests are definitiveBut she tells me that you have to consult an emergency, Pain and bleeding are not an excellent sign. My partner and I are still with the angels. We already imagine the parents and laugh while we think about it.

Find an emergency gynecological meeting, mission (almost) impossible

We had just moved to this city where I did not have a dedicated gynecologist and I was reappeared from an incalculable number of doctors, always with the same sentence:

“I’m sorry, we don’t take new patients. Back in three months”

Everything, despite my insistence to specify my symptoms and tell them that there was an emergency. In this situation, I discovered a steel mind: after about thirty calls and I got reappeared from a hospital, I ended up finding a kindergarten gynecologist who was making an appointment in another hospital. Covid is an obligation, I do not have authorized support and my spouse has to wait outside for long hours of waiting.

When I meet the doctor, I’ll explain to him what he brings me. He puts me a pelvic ultrasound, looks at his screen and punctures his “HM HM”, “strange” exam, “I don’t see him” … without ever looking at me.

I don’t understand what’s going on, until you turn around and tell me:

“” It is not in your uterus “.

I fall from the clouds and I don’t understand. How isn’t it? Is it possible? Where is it? Replies me I do an extra-wareal pregnancyThat the embryo is in my foul -up test and that it is immediately necessary to stop this pregnancy.

I still don’t understand. An extra pregnancy? I ask him what I can do, if there is no other solution, which will happen if I do nothing. Do coldly, he replies to these exact words:

“” If you stay like this, you will die. “

The diagnosis of my extra-wareal pregnancy

When I looked at him with amazed eyes, in the end he explained to me what he was returning. Mass, The fertilized egg was not in my uterus but in one of my tubes, and grew there. The risk was that the trunk is falling and that I make an internal hemorrhage, a very serious risk. He added that we couldn’t change anything, that we would do me An injection to eliminate the egg scarcely implanted and that I will be silent.

My happiness flew very quickly. I have not heard any compassion on his part, Only contempt and exasperation While he asks me to wait in the corridor that an nurse comes to make me an injection. This is what I did, alone, surrounded by pregnant and smiling women.

After an extra-wareal pregnancy

The nurse tried to reassure me with kindness and understanding, to tell me that everything would go well for the future, but I was simply bruised. In the morning, I am announced that I am pregnant, in the afternoon, everything has already ended with a bite in the buttocks … When I found my spouse, after all this, I melted in tears in my arms. He did not even understand the situation, but tried to support me in the best possible way.

The pains are not faded since tomorrow. For several days, they continued and were terrible to live for me, remembering me constantly what I had just immediately.

I gradually returned to little and after some time, I found a job in another city. We moved again and suspended the idea of ​​the child for a few months, until January 2022. Of course, we had not forgotten what had happened and this time we were careful: I followed my cycle to the letter and observed the slightest change.

I was told that what I lived rarely happens twice. According to CNGOF, 60% of people who have had an ectopic pregnancy are pregnant again within two years of healing and the recurrence rate ranges between 10 and 30%. It is entirely possible to have a child after an extra-wareal pregnancy and I had several testimonies around me to attest it.

Worrying symptoms for the second time

The weather has passed and March, after ten days behind the rules, I take a urinary test. The result is displayed: pregnant for two / three weeks. Joy invades me! My treasure was in the living room and you should have seen his gaze when I arrived with my big smile when I went back to the bathroom, the test in hand … I am still moved.

I decided to make an appointment very quickly with my new medical specialist on maternity. It is sweet, adorable and offers me a niche on the same day.

But after two blood testsThe results worry it. Finally, I start to have strange losses. Anxious and on the advice of a friend, I am an appointment with a midwife for the first check on the following Monday.

This time, my partner can accompany me and the midwife does everything possible to reassure us. He launches pelvic ultrasound and there … Search, search, still look for, but there is still nothing in my uterus. I see her do her best, but she is forced to stop the exam to not do it too much, and her He prefers to send me to the emergency room.

A second extra-wareal pregnancy

We are coming out of the appointment, to tell us that everything would start again. After waiting in an overwhelmed gynecology service, a nurse comes to make me an examination of the blood more (my veins can no longer, moreover) and are installed in a small room.

I see an intern, a gynecologist, then the director of gynecology that comes with a very professional air. We feel that it is not joking.

He takes the device in his hand and a little strength on the side where I am suffering. I hold my teeth with these four people around me in the room, apart from the legs, to pray so that everything ends quickly. Ends up finding, e I announce that the embryo is good in my right trunk, like the last time.

I realize that I will rely on the same nightmare a second time, worse. This time, given the anniversary, We will have to remove the trompe that poses a problem: My story shows that it is risky and that my life cannot always be endangered. They leave me the choice by informing me that it is the best thing to do and I accept the operation so as to never have to relive this situation again.

I am announced when I have to be managed during the day. I am in shock – I did not expect to transmit the operating table so quickly – and despite their explanations and their benevolence, it melts me in tears. He is starting to do a lot.

I lose my trust in themselves and I feel deeply alone. My partner reassures me, he tells me that I am strong, that I will fight and that we will get out even more united. He takes care of getting lost, in the face of this general anesthesia that awaits me. Finally, the operation was postponed the next day. I can finally eat and spend the night in a hospital room.

The operation to treat my extra-Huree pregnancy

The next day, wakes up at 7:30 in the morning and go for the sailing. I barely had time to reach what was happening, and that’s okay.

Around 11:30, I woke up completely in gas. An nurse told me Everything had gone well and that the operation had lasted only twenty minutes. I have three scars: one on the navel, one in the groin and one just above the pubis. I went home in the afternoon, with a check-up meeting the following month. Physically, I came back very quickly. Mentally, things were more difficult but I am well surrounded and I was strong.

I impatiently expected the check-up because a few days after the operation, I received a relationship by mail that indicated that my left trunk had jumped and that I had endometriosis injuries, something I didn’t know …

In the hospital, the doctor who faced me explained to me that the trompeciate term marked that my remaining trunk was more often than normal, which could perhaps be a problem to get pregnant, without being a certainty. As for the endometriosis, he explained to me that the treatment he could offer was not Not compatible with our desire for pregnancy.

Ends taboo around the question

Currently, so we have to wait a few months to see if I can get pregnant without medical assistance. Otherwise, we can count on the help of medicine, which today does very beautiful things! We remain full of hope and after everything we have experienced, we are sure that one day we will be able to know the joys of parenting.

If I write this testimony, it is because the term extra-wareal pregnancy was completely unknown to me before living. And then I felt as if I were the only one in the world to live such a situation. However, questioning those around me, I discovered that many people had experienced dramas without ever saying a word …

These are taboo topics, but we have to talk about it! I wish everyone knew it exists, at least be able to react quickly and not wait for your life to be in danger. Because about 16,000 GEU cases are counted in France every year. The causes are varied, even the symptoms and you should never hesitate to ask for exams if you think it is not good.

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