He is 7 years younger than me: what nobody tells you couples with age difference

I am 28 years old and I live it very well. I have never been afraid of growing or growing old, on the contrary. I would dare to say it: I can’t wait for my first white hair. I find it so beautiful!

Since I was 26, I consider myself “along the thirty path”. In my head, “I am almost 30 years old” – for some more years.

In short, all this to tell you that I have no problems with my age.

But Go out with a boy who has 21 rodsThat, I didn’t expect it …

How I met my younger boy than me

I met him in the most trivial way he is there, during the birthday of a common friend, who tends to have friends of all ages and all horizons.

We share the same passions, the same political values, the same sense of humor Farty: it is rare! But he has twentyone. That classifies it directly into the category ” non -sexual From my mind.

It is a little silly said so, because it is important, vaccinated and absolutely not empty, but at the time, I find it difficult to project myself into a sex life, a seduction approach, with someone under the age of 25.

The twenty years, in my eyes, are “children”. Nothing !

We both resisted this evening and continued to chat on the internet later. And then we saw each other, in all honor, to drink. Then two. Then four.

Then I offered to continue with me. So we kissed. And then we were naked. And it was good.

And the next day, my pillow still felt it, and that was Truly WELL.

(I was wrong not to sexualize it, because clearly this man knows what he is doing … but I’m talking about it below!)

Ribelote once, twice, three times. He meets my friends, I meet his. We kiss on the corner of the streets and we are missing in twelve minutes.

That’s how I finished to have A crush, then a romantic relationship, with a 21 -year -old boy. Almost without realizing that it fell on me.

Leaving with a man younger than me, I didn’t expect it

As tradition imposes, I shared my surprise with a good friend, sitting at the bottom of a bar terrace as smoky as it is overheated. He is 30 years old. And the man her date Currently … 24.

We both thought end with the oldest types of usThe genre Virile Beard, Sailor Tattoo, Good Whiskey, Guffllinks and all these obsolete ideas have received ideas … and we are with it, My French excuseTwink who did not know the great era of 2be3! Knowing that our previous guys were already a little younger than us!

By combining our strength, our neurons and some glasses of rosé, we applied ourselves to clarify this enigma of capital importance. Which has more or less given the following dialogue:

– Wait, we agree, you don’t want children or get married. And not even.
– Yes.
– And each of us lives in 25 m². And we don’t really want to live in pairs.
– Yes.
– And on Sunday, we have the postmates of a hangover, we command bullshit to eat and make a loop robbery.
– Yes, well, I start.
-Well do you know many single boys from 30 to 40 years old, without children, who are fine with the fact of spending on Sunday in Turbo -guaUedeb ‘in a study?

Touch.

As explained by Clémence, publisher Rockietransmitting this study on celibacy “, The percentage of individuals decreases clearly between 30 and 39 years old ». So there are only less thirty years available and when we add the fact that I have no very traditional life projects, bah, Find a 30 -year -old boy Célib who attacks my life …

It is not impossible, but it is cotton.

My boyfriend is younger than me, but it’s not entirely trivial

Well, that must be said My 21 -year -old boy is not Anyone Not even 21 years. HQI (or equipped as you prefer), reconciles a great sensitivity with a brain that goes very quickly. He then did his school in accelerated.

At 15, he had already left his family to start higher education. He has worked in the same box for 2 years and is not his first job. He knows how to drop the vegetarian lasagna on the ground, fold the laundry when he is dry and does not like to leave the dishes around.

Brief, He is an adult “like me”Not a great teenager, not a licensed student who spoke to me partial reviews when I take the cabbage on my tax on housing construction.

We work more or less in the same area and when we cause the work around a glass of wine, I don’t have the impression of having 7 more rings than him.

It is a phrase that I often heard in the mouth of the older boys who tried to sin when I was a teenager, so it makes me shiver a little … but here it’s true: ” He is mature for his age ».

And this is what makes me question my ideas received in question. For me, a 21 -year -old boy was necessarily less mature, less adult, more naive, less guaranteed, in short, like me. But each person is different and age does not necessarily mean much.

My boyfriend is younger than me and makes me feel good

Where I feel that he is 21 years old, he is on a rather positive aspect: I find it held A form of freshness that I do not find in many thirty years. He still has dreams in his head, he has a thousand things to experience and my little heart melts when I see him enthusiastic about a frank joy, without a shadow area.

However, he did not have an easy life, he even had less luck than me, in particular a level of family history. He could have taken him to close him on himself, to arm himself. But he was able to maintain the ability to wonder that he makes me rediscover the world through his beautiful eyes.

I hope that the future does not damage it too much, that it will not lose this trust, this optimism, this spontaneity that sometimes is missing. Because I was too disappointed, too wounded, that sometimes I tend to overload, as if my most years formed an armor sometimes difficult to remove.

It is important for me to remain positive, to have faith in humanity, in love, believe in the beautiful things of this world, they large or small. And I think thisIt helps me to reconnect this part of me that I had neglected a little.

Can we share cultural references with this age difference?

Sometimes I have small bugs.

I think back to the 1998 World Cup and I realize that my boyfriend was all child when France sang ” And one, and two and three zo-ros ». I hit that he did not dot Yellow A Gameboy Color and that had never had a Caramatic account.

But in the end, We share many cultural referencesAnyway. I think it is due to the fact that we both grew up with the internet, which “erases” the generational aspect of some discoveries.

At the time when culture was built in the very rigid boxes of TV and radio programs, I imagine that the age difference was more felt. With a few years, it was simply impossible to have seen the same programs, listened to the same songs.

While with the web, everything is at hand. My boyfriend did not look at Yu-gi oh At the same time, since he was 3 years old, but he still knows ” It is a time of Dueldu-Duel »! It is part of its culturewhich he built at his rhythm, a few years after me.

My sexuality with my younger companion than me

To be honest, I had a bit “Fear” to find me in a role of “ass teacher” with my new boyfriend. I have experienced a lot of sexuality, I am good at what I like or not, and I feel very comfortable with everything that is naked in general.

But I don’t particularly want to give the There From our sexual life, I prefer when it is done for two. So, in fact, I was able to guide him to certain practices and make him experience things. But frankly, many new pleasures also teaches me!

In terms of the ass, we have never finished discovering and the age does not really count … Except for one thing, in his case: fucking energy! He is able to have fun several times in a row, a hard band like the stone in a language in a language and let me tell you that my libido has climbed the stars now that I wake up every morning in front of his proud erections.

I feel desired, desirable and when I imagine to make him discover a pleasure unknown so far, even my sensations for me, by empathy, have increased by ten times.

In what future with my younger boy than me?

I don’t know how much this adventure will last, I have some problems to project myself. But it is not due to the fact that my boyfriend is 21 years old, rather in a transition period that I will currently cross, which seems to me natural enough when I approach the 1930s.

Perhaps this unexpected relationship will be a rather parenthesis in my life, perhaps it will last for a long time and that I will look at my boyfriend growing up my side. Maybe one day I will kiss him and he will have the age I had on the day of our first kiss.

In any case, I’m happy Not having left our age difference by preventing us from considering us. I’m not afraid to get old, but I feel rejuvenated by his side!

I think if it works too, it is because I’m not trying to have the ascendant about him, and he doesn’t particularly want me to drive him. The age difference is not necessarily provided with a dynamic “teacher” and all the better because I don’t want this type of relationship in my life.

We are only two people, with our experiences, and we are lucky to be compatible with many levels. The fact that my boyfriend was born after the release of Titanic In cinema, finally … it’s just a detail!

And you, have you already left with a younger boy than you? How did it go? We come we talk about it in the comments!