Because I decided to take advantage of my hobbies … without my partner (and this changes everything)

Article initially published in February 2020

Bad Girl (@misundergirl) has raised an interesting point around the organization of free time in heterosexual relationships, explaining that in its sense in a couple and contrary to what pop culture would like to believe, we believed, Men are neither romantic nor imaginative, and who in the end are women who organize free time and everything that follows.

And in the middle of all the answers that his tweet has been able to arouse, there are some that are distinguished, such as that of @mzlebiscotte.

https://twitter.com/mzlebiscotte/status/1228977685654839297?s=19

Thrive alone, even in a relationship

I find it interesting to read that even if the spouse does not seem to want to be involved in the organization of his free time in their couple, he no longer seems to wait for his best life to live, he enjoyed his holidays and creates pleasant moments for leisure.

It is rather rare to read a reflection like that of @mzllebiscotte, which does not complain of his situation but has found a fairly radical solution to the lack of involvement of the spouse.

She explains in your thread thatThey had a relationship for many years and have a son together, but who does not prevent him from being independent and doing what he likes, How to make a journey without him because he did not think of going pose, visiting the museums alone with their child or going to the theater … everything without waiting for the spouse to take his agreements, which apparently does very rarely and without taking them in place, as unfortunately it is the case in couples.

Following the accusation of mental pleasure within the couple

I was able to chat with @mzlebiscotte who kindly agreed to answer my questions. In particular, I wanted to know how he experienced the answers to his tweet that he had told her to “leave her boyfriend” or who asked her openly “because she had remained with him when he was actually as if he lived alone”.

I find it interesting that people have appropriate my thread and that I made it talk, I have no problems with criticism. In my opinion, the most important thing is that the people concerned are aware that there is an alternative: prosper on their own in a couple. Thinking about it, I realize that my friends are like this and that they do not shock them, because we have made our habit and that I must say that these are very pleasant moments.

How could he say in a tweet in response to those who criticized it:

I reassure everyone, I’m perfectly happy with my boyfriend. Apart from the fact that it does not plan anything, it adapts to me perfectly. Loving your spouse is also living with your defects, and me too.

His spouse seems to be the first pissed off, since he is the one who lost his holidays and free time, the activities he would have liked to do, but but However, it does not seem to be able to organize enough and take its provisions.

The transmission of this independence to his daughter

During our exchange, @@ Mzlebiscotte also told me that he had written a letter for his daughter, in the event that he succeeded her and that she wrote to her that it was necessary “that follows her desires, her instinct and that she is not limited to her limits.

With his example, He wants to tell him that a couple is not a well -made scheme that he must actively go looking for his happiness.

This vision of the couple, made up of two very independent members, goes against many speeches on what should be a satisfied couple (melting, sharing everything, etc.). And that’s why I wanted to transmit tweets of @mzlebiscotte who told me that they could be told you too, dear Rocky.

This empowerment and this independence make a balance look within his couple, but above all for herself. Wouldn’t it be a solution to consider more frequently? Don’t wait for the other and do what we really want, without barriers, and without having to manage the other’s program in addition to his?

And you, what do you think of the mental load around free time? What do you do when your partner is not involved in your projects? Come and tell us all this in the comments!