Take her white hair: 4 tips to cross the path without complex

Article initially published on January 9, 2019

I don’t remember exactly when I had my first white hair, probably around my 25th birthday.

I imagine that as follows, I had to pinch it between two fingers to snatch it, without asking myself more questions. Being half confused halfway to see this sign of wisdom appear: when you only have a silver thread in black hair, it makes you laugh.

And then, at more than 50 years, my mother has almost none: I thought about it in silence on this.

Except for the fact that I started to tear more and more regularly, every month, then every week. Until this summer, when one of my friends told me, indicating the back of my head:

– Oh, let’s say, you have white hair there.
-Mo, Rapilo.
– I want … but there are full. I remove them all?

It’s stupid, but she shocked me a little. This is also where I stopped the ostrich. Ok, I’m 28 years old and I’m starting to have white hair (gray? – Difficult to say for the moment) and I know it won’t work. If I continue to tear them, I will end up becoming a bald.

Resist the compulsive impulse of tearing my white hair

Suddenly, I decided to resist the compulsive impulse to shoot and let them life. For the moment, it is not too evident. I have to have a dozen and you have to really attack the nose on the skull to see them.

I guess that within my 30 years they will already be much more visible and that the fateful question will ask me: “Taking or not dyeing?” (tincture or non -coloring, such is the question).

I have never dyed my hair. Not even with an orange bomb for a Halloween evening at college. Not even to the Henna to have reflections Acajous. Too much fear of damaging them, those who are already so beautiful and fragile.

The easiest way would be to hire them, but I find it difficult in our society that connects beauty so much to young people and that has made gray hair one of the symbols of aging. In the end, in women Eh, apparently George Clooney and other boys have a derogation.

Fortunately, there are more and more women who have decided to proudly wear their gray or white hair: the celebrities – from Christine Lagarde to Mona Chollet, via Lio – but also anonymous on social networks.

If you follow the hashtags #silversers or #greyhairddontcare, you can come across the photos of women of all ages who have decided not to dye (or no longer) the hair and leave it gray.

Stop dyeing the hair and traveling on the silver side of the force

I discussed with three of them to find out what had pushed them to make this decision and as if their journey on the silver side of the force had passed.

For the Blogger Delphine the Antieux, the journey began a little before its 40th birthday with a growing desire to use more natural cosmetic products. She who uses dyes from her first white hair at the age of 17, decides to go to homemade vegetable coloring.

But find the boring process since it is necessary to stick to every two or three weeks so that the roots are not seen.

Parallel, he sees more and more women on the Internet, particularly in the United States, proudly bring their gray hair. “If I find it beautiful about them? Why not with me?”, He wonders. In 2015, he launched and stopped dyeing his hair.

The same path to Annick, 42, who dyed his hair from his adolescence, first for the pleasure of changing color, very quickly, to hide his white hair.

“We have not yet spoken at the time of the potential danger of permanent dyes,” he explains. Six years ago, he joined groups of Facebook women who leave gray hair naturally and have a real revelation. “In the photos before/after, I found them transformed, brighter and even younger than with dyed hair”.

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It stops dyeing her hair for a few months before recharging. The second attempt, at 38, is the right one. Like Annick, many women find the transition period between colored hair and very complicated gray/white hair.

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As the regrowth advances, a demarcation line appears to the roots and it is not easy to be beautiful with different colors mixed on the head. Often it takes more than a year to find more uniform hair, except to opt for a very short cut after a few months.

A year after stopping dyeing her hair, Nina, 34, starts seeing the end of the tunnel, but she finds the long time: “See only when you look in the mirror”. To resist, he was fortunately able to count on his boyfriend’s unwavering support.

He is also happy to have documented his “transition” on Instagram. He found a lot of support from other women who crossed the same thing. “There is a real Sorority: I made friends from all over the world and from all ages. You receive positive comments and encouragement in the days when we are ugly, it really helps to remain the path”.

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Annick and Delphine have also found a lot of kindness and internet support. Off-line, sometimes it was a little more complicated. “When people make you negative comments, they actually send you their fears about aging,” explains Annick.

Finally, all three are pleased to have taken this step there and even wanted to take their natural hair before. “It was a real release, I spared time, energy and money,” says Delphine, who is also happy to have been emulated around her. “I have a friend who is in full transition, after repeating for years: I could never.”

Resist social pressure and take white hair

Nina adds that she helped her better to accept: “Before I was intractable on my physical appearance, today, I have a softer look and I took strength”.

There is no doubt to judge those who continue to dye their hair: “It is a personal choice and everyone has to go there at their own rhythm”, he advises Annick who knows how difficult it can be to resist social pressure.

“When I was little, my mother was the only one among the mothers of my friends to have white hair,” recalls Nina. “I said to him: why don’t you have them? Today, I know she is right. If you never have hair, don’t do it, let your hair become gray, it will make you unique”.

This advice of Nina and in particular the self -confidence that emanates, just like Delphine and Annick, makes me think. Why do I spend my time preaching the acceptance of his body but that I go crazy about a handful of white hair?!

We stop going around the plate, the diagnosis is clear: I’m afraid of age. Fear of seeing my body transform and find me ugly in the ice in the morning or in the eyes of my lover.

Fortunately, writing this article will have allowed me to understand one thing: white hair is not a reliable indicator of the age of a person. About twenty years they already have a lot, when others reach a pension without having it.

Above all, I looked at dozens of photos of women of all ages with gray or white hair and I found them beautiful. Nothing like “50 shades of gray” to give relief to the hair and improve the eyes.

These women reconciled me with my first white hair: I almost can’t wait to see them shine in the sun next summer.