Mental health and sexual desire are linked, there’s no doubt about it. And for good reason, anxiety is a part of all aspects of daily life, including sexual relationships. These thoughts can destabilize long-term and daily sexual relationships, preventing many people from having sex as they desire.
These sex-related anxieties are often symptoms of sexual dysfunction or broader mental health issues such as generalized anxiety, depression, or even obsessive compulsive disorder. And these “sexual anxieties” are numerous, but three are more common, as the American magazine specifies Charm.
Performance anxiety
This is the most feared because it is the most common. Performance anxiety occurs when a person is overly aware of their body or their actions during a sexual act.
Therefore, being fully aware of one’s body during a sexual act leads one to judge oneself during the act and to pay attention to one’s body image during the act. People with performance anxiety ask themselves questions like “ What does my body look like when I’m in this position? »OR “ Am I taking too long to orgasm? “, ” Are my moans too loud? »
This type of anxiety often has a direct effect on the body, causing difficulties achieving or maintaining an erection, arousal problems, difficulty achieving orgasm and/or orgasm, or even pain during intercourse.
Post-coital dysphoria
We are already familiar with dysphoria, this mood disorder that makes a person feel disconnected and detached from their body for many reasons. Sex can also cause it.
it’s about post-coital dysphoriawhich according to the clinical psychologists interviewed on Charm. This especially affects women. Immediately after sex, the anxious person experiences negative emotions that manifest themselves with crying, a feeling of melancholy or even a certain aggression.
These reactions would be caused by “ descent » of all the neurotransmitters that circulate during sexual intercourse and which can, once the act is considered concluded, create a decreased feeling of arousal and proximity to the end of sexual intercourse.
Although it is reported mainly among women, men can also suffer from it, which is rarer because it is less reported.
Sexual aversion disorder
The disorder ofsexual aversion it is also a form of sexual anxiety. Previously classified as a sexual desire disorder, it causes an extreme aversion, which can be persistent or recurrent, towards one's partner. So, the people who suffer from it they may want to avoid almost all genital sexual contact with their partner.
Although not a clinical diagnosis in itself, this sexual avoidance can also be attributed to trauma, or negative associations with sex resulting from cultural, religious or social conditioning.
How to overcome these anxieties?
Sexual anxiety isn't just physical, it's psychological too. Be able to fight or coexist with the experts required by Charm advise you to consult qualified sexologists if the problem persists beyond six months.
But they also give some advice on how to fix it: if you are in a relationship, they recommend communicating your anxieties, preferences and sexual needs. And if you're the partner, don't take these anxieties personally. And even in this case communication is fundamental: “ Reminding your partner that you still love them and want to solve these problems together can give them just the strength they need to overcome their anxieties », our colleagues write.
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