We were lucky enough to receive in our podcast “Let me have fun”, We warmly invite you to listen, Léa, aka @mercibeaucul. Léa is full of good vibes and we could talk for hours with her because he is so excited to share her advice for a joyful and taboo sexuality. Take a closer look at his feed Instagramwe wanted to delve deeper into a topic with her: How do you really know what you like in sex?
The question may seem obvious and yet it is important, especially when we know that the French make love less and less, while the injunction to sexuality has never been stronger. And it’s right not to have desire, as our columnist Charlotte Bernard reminds us in her latest article.
It is not easy to know ourselves sexually because we have been taught to restrain our pleasure instead of exploring it. Léa gives 5 tracks to get to know each other better sexually.
What tickles you?
Is your body your best indicator? If you feel like there are little things you like, then do it because chances are these things will have an even bigger effect on you if you persist. People expect pleasure to be intense from the start, that orgasm comes right away. As soon as we experience slightly lighter sensations, we have the impression of not experiencing any pleasure. But this is false. Start by connecting to your body and go step by step. For example, if you like to have your neck touched, perhaps simply spending more time in that area can raise your temperature.
Meeting your body in a non-sexual way
Feeling your body is not something innate, no one taught us how to do it. Exists plethora of non-sexual explorations develop a language with him. It’s a real skill to develop. This type of practice allows you to reconnect with the sensations of the body, it’s interesting sometimes they desexualize sexuality and of no longer be in search of immediate pleasure. Contrary to what we imagine, sexuality is practiced outside of sexual moments, but on a daily basis. The more we learn to feel our body, to develop our senses, the easier it will be to let go.
Go to workshops, meetings: EXCHANGE
To feel things, you must already know that they exist. And nothing better than conversations on the topic. The more stories you hear about sexuality, the more you will fuel your imagination. Fantasies are something that should clearly be shared to show your body and brain what’s out there. And this is good, because Léa is organizing a Discul Tour for the whole month of June in 7 cities in France. There is still time to take your place.
Watch, read, listen to porn
The very concept of porn is a good idea because it allows us to have different representations of sexuality, to see desires that are different from ours. But mainstream porn today is violent and harmful to the image of women. By moving towards ethical productions, we can find small flaws emerging from behind the scenes: a good source of inspiration. There are also Anoushka film productions of which Anoushka is the director ethical pornographic films and also Erika Lust, pioneer of feminist porn.
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Source: Madmoizelle
Mary Crossley is an author at “The Fashion Vibes”. She is a seasoned journalist who is dedicated to delivering the latest news to her readers. With a keen sense of what’s important, Mary covers a wide range of topics, from politics to lifestyle and everything in between.
