The topic of sex is still one of the most taboo, so it is full of prejudices and stereotypes. These include: “If you don’t like something, there’s something wrong with you,” “A normal woman should have fun!”
Statistics and complexes
The “default orgasm” function was never provided, but many still prefer not to think that the female body is designed this way: “orgasm is not synonymous with pleasure, and pleasure is not only orgasm.” According to statistics of sexologist Olga Vasilenko, about 40% of women have never experienced an orgasm, but at first glance, this alarming figure does not mean that almost half of us are not interested in sex. Not at all, but thinking with his soul: “Is everything okay with me?”, “Why can others do this, but I can’t?” You definitely need to get rid of this because there can be no room for guilt in such matters.
Why do we feel guilty?
Embarrassment and fear of misunderstanding are the first thing. Due to the taboo nature of the topic, it is difficult to choose the right phrase that will not disturb your partner. It seems that if you admit that something is missing, you tell him: I don’t like you, I am unhappy with you, you are not a man. Accordingly, dissatisfaction remains because men are not telepaths – they cannot participate in solving an unspoken problem. Sexologist Alena Sarapova notes that there is a direct connection between the lack of sexual intimacy and the inability to have an open conversation. Accordingly, open communication and partnership are necessary conditions for solving the problem. And this doesn’t just apply to sex, of course.
How to overcome fear
Stereotypes are based on lack of knowledge; This has always been the case. The 2019 UNESCO study mentions the importance of sexuality education, and sexology in Russia is actively developing and gaining momentum, offering environmentally friendly and effective options for solving such sensitive problems. Therefore, the main thing is not to be afraid of condemnation, examine yourself, establish harmonious communication with your partner and, if necessary, seek help from a professional sexologist.
Source: People Talk
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