Numerologists say the specific day of the month a person was born can reveal a recurring pattern that keeps sabotaging their relationships, according to a report by the American magazine Parade. The theory links certain numbers to what practitioners call relationship karma, patterns of behaviour a person is meant to outgrow over the course of their life.
According to this concept, the lessons are not limited to romantic partnerships. Numerologists say the same patterns can show up in friendships and family life as well.
Independence and Trust
People born on the 1st, 10th, 19th or 28th of any month are said to have a lesson about not fearing dependency. According to the theory, these people value independence and personal space so strongly that they can pull away from a partner the moment they feel their freedom is threatened. Their task, numerologists say, is to recognise that a healthy relationship does not have to take away a person's autonomy.
Those born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th or 29th are said to need to learn to trust their intuition. The theory holds that these people are good at reading others but tend to doubt their own feelings once they are in a relationship. Numerologists advise them to give in less to anxiety and rely more on their instincts.
Rushing In and Duty
People born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st or 30th are said to fall for someone quickly and act on emotion, sometimes taking major steps before they have had time to properly assess the situation. The advice for this group, according to the theory, is not to rush and to let relationships develop with time.
Those born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd or 31st are described as hard workers who see things through to the end, a trait that numerologists say can work against them in love by turning a relationship into just another responsibility. They are urged to remember that a relationship should be something they want, not only something they feel obliged to maintain.
Overthinking and Overgiving
People born on the 5th, 14th or 23rd are said to replay conversations, a partner's actions and possible future scenarios in their heads for hours, with constant overanalysis only deepening their uncertainty. Numerologists advise them to let events unfold naturally instead of trying to control every outcome.
Those born on the 6th, 15th or 24th are said to give a great deal to partners, friends and family, according to the numerological theory, with problems arising when that effort is not returned in kind. They are advised to learn to set boundaries and walk away from one-sided relationships.
Idealizing, Control and Conflict
People born on the 7th, 16th or 25th are said to risk idealising a partner or the relationship itself, which can stop them noticing obvious problems. Their task, according to the theory, is to take off the rose-tinted glasses and assess situations realistically.
Those born on the 8th, 17th or 26th are said to turn relationships into a contest for power and influence, sometimes even playing down their own achievements to keep the peace. The theory suggests they should instead look for a partner who is not intimidated by their confidence and success.
Finally, people born on the 9th, 18th or 27th are said to avoid conflict for too long, putting up with things that bother them rather than risk an argument, which numerologists say can let a partner take advantage of their accommodating nature. They are advised to learn to speak openly about problems and not fear confrontation.
