Quiet? – Bad. Did you speak? – Worse. In today’s realities, it is almost impossible to remain indifferent to the events that the whole world is discussing. And, of course, the sharpest verbal quarrels occur on social networks (it’s easy to remain anonymous here and with impunity): some are reprimanded for not wanting to publicly share their positions, others are confronted with opinions, others are criticized for “misbehavior”. . People are understandable. In such conventional comments, they find a way out of their own anger, confusion, anxiety, fear, forgetting that unfortunately the same person is on the other side of the screen. We exist not to sow panic and aggression, but to learn to respect other people’s opinions (which may differ from yours) and other people’s boundaries (even the virtual ones). Experts say how to behave in the field of media, especially in acute situations.
Nika Nabokova, creator and co-founder of Mindspa (a free psychological support app)
Now it is important for everyone to understand that hostilities take place not only at the front, but also in the information field. The only difference is we don’t control the first, but we can influence the second.
If everyone is interested in the world, one must carry it on one’s own.
Unfortunately, there are no approved codes of conduct. But if we look at it in terms of humanity, care and common sense, I think something like this will happen.
1. “All Russians”, “all Ukrainians” etc. Do not allow general statements such as
2. Don’t ask someone to post what seems important and right to you.
3. Don’t blame others for what happened.
4. Do not combine your fear, anger, anxiety with the field of knowledge. Sharing feelings is important and possible, but not worth the comments shouting “what a nightmare”.
5. Do not repost everything that catches your eye. Not everything we see is true.
6. Do not insult.
7. Before you write, think three times about how our message will make others feel.
If obscene words, curses are erupting, if you want to say who is right and who is wrong, if you think you know exactly who to support and you want to share, if anger, anger, aggression pours out of you, then it is better to remain silent. Talk about yourself, your feelings, actions, ways of coping, share warmth, support, professional knowledge.
It’s important for people to see their favorite stars, bloggers, influencers take part in what’s going on – so they know they’re not alone, they’re with those they mentor. Opinion leaders are now the pillar and bulwark of that life that has suddenly started to crumble.
Remember that everything written is your contribution to this overall process.
Don’t throw grass. Trial. Do not rate. Do not get information from anywhere.
Does what you say bring us closer to peace and tranquility? If not, avoid.
Marina Volkova, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at the Yasno psychological video consultation service
The intense experiences we have when reading the news and social media can be associated with aggression, and it is important not to project this onto people nearby. We are all united by a shared pain that we express and experience in different ways, and even if the person seems to “deserve” such a reaction, we can redirect the negative impulse in another direction. For example, exalt, throw emotions on paper, cry or shout alone with yourself. Sports training, housekeeping, or deferred tasks to distract you are also suitable.
The media space is now used as a great emotional container.
If the alarm rises against the background of the agenda, you need to provide yourself with information hygiene. Limit incoming news sources: This doesn’t mean “burying your head in the sand,” but that’s how you look at yourself and your emotional state. The main and important can be learned from the environment, but the excess of information that is difficult to bear, let it stay out of your attention until you gain strength to read or listen. For this, the psyche needs resources.
In an anxious environment, with “Stories” and constant monitoring of feeds or news sites, you seem to be in control of the situation, but in reality this brings even more chaos to life and increases the intensity of the experience. , the soul does not have time to process the already accumulated stress .
If there are people nearby who are concerned about what is going on and share their feelings, ask them to pause the conversation about the issue that is bothering you. Stop them, exit the dialog. Unprocessed experiences are “contagious”: if another person chokes on them, they not only share their feelings but, in a sense, “change” them to you. But for someone else’s experience to fit into the head and soul, you need to be in a sufficiently resourceful situation yourself.
In acute situations, there is a tendency to polarize: to divide people into friends and enemies, to limit reality to black and white. The greatest mental work available to anyone is to resist and resist this desire. Even if the other person looks like a total bastard who deserves it all the way. Tell yourself: “Wait, now I have feelings, I need to breathe, recover, and then make a decision.”
Olga Dashevskaya, founder of the communications agency PR Inc.
In any communication in a stressful situation, it is best to first form a personal opinion, not based on emotional consequences, but on proven facts. During the examination of the situation, the panic will be replaced by calmness, the mind will be cleared and the perspective may change. We know this from our own experience: for example, when drafting a message on behalf of a large company, its agenda can change significantly as it goes on. What can we say about people whose work is not related to the field of knowledge?
For many, social networks have become a way to let out and drain emotions when there is no opportunity to visit a professional psychologist.
It starts a chain reaction that captures them a sizable mass of people, a second, third, wave of negative information.
His fans give any public person ideal qualities (perhaps not in his nature) and responsibility for what the subscribers themselves could not do. To the user it may seem like a small person who will not change anything, but bloggers with 20 million subscribers are another matter.
The audience is not happy with their silence because they have entrusted their likes, shares, shares to them, which means they believe they have the right to demand that they do not have enough power.
For myself, I have long closed the topic of personal acceptance of negative statements in networks, I always answer politely with humor, but I can only replace it with respectful expressions.
The most important advice to angry users is to give all your competitors a different, even diametrically opposite, point of view.
Most people aren’t ready to hear other ideas yet, so there’s a fierce backlash in obscene language. Try to restrain yourself and find out why your interlocutor disagrees with you and listen to him with interest and acceptance.
Source: People Talk
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