Quit Tinder: 10 Offline Dating Rules

Last week, Match Group company announced that Tinder is leaving Russia. And while the app’s millions of users aren’t too enthusiastic about the news, you have to remember that “it’s not just Tinder.” Spring weather allows you to organize a cool walk in the city and then go to a bar or cafe, where you can also find your soul mate.

Especially for those who forget to meet The Fashion Vibes and offline, communication and public speaking specialist Yulia Chernykh has prepared a simple instruction.

Julia Chernykh, communications specialist

Physical appereance

Stereotypical but true. When you leave the house with the feeling that you are looking at 100%, it is instantly read by others. It doesn’t matter what brand your look is from. The important thing is that you feel comfortable and confident. At the end of the evening, you should not wear the most beautiful shoes that will excite you more than an interesting interlocutor.

mood decides

If you go to a bar after work exhausted or because your friends dragged you there, “Don’t come, you’ll die” will be written on your face. This posture will resonate with facial expressions and gestures. Key. Leave the problems outside the institution and go dancing, having fun and having a good time. Don’t necessarily set yourself a goal of finding your other half. An evening in good company and interesting communication will be a good bonus. And if you sit sullenly alone and look for the right “object” in the crowd, then you’re just wasting your time.

Attempt

You can watch for a long time how the person you like gives you languid looks, and then you can go home without picking up the phone. Therefore, take action. Use simple tricks:

• ask someone to take a photo of you, thank them for a good photo and start a conversation
• say it’s your first time at this place and ask them to recommend you a delicious cocktail.
• ask me to shazam a song and send it to your phone
• ask to hold your seat at the bar on the way to the toilet
• pay attention to some detail. For example, say this place has the best bartenders in town or come here every Friday there is always great music playing.

Eye contact

If you stare at the floor or look with interest at the sparkling glasses on the bar counter, interest in you instantly disappears. For many people, this skill is quite difficult. Train. Be careful how you talk to friends, management, a customer, or even the cashier in a supermarket. When you find yourself face to face with an interesting interlocutor, the fear of eye contact will disappear.

interesting dialogue

At the first acquaintance, most often one person chats incessantly, and the second periodically nods. Try to keep both yourself and your new acquaintance in an equal dialogue. To do this, answer with detailed statements. Not just “I’m fine” but “I’m happy to have completed a big project where I created an interesting marketing concept.” It is easier for the interlocutor to establish a dialogue when you tell some details about yourself. And remember – humor saves any conversation if it doesn’t hit below the waist.

no fuss

When a person truly loves, tension builds up inside him. You start crumpling napkins, playing with the chain around your neck, flipping a glass or cutlery in your hand. Calm down. Take a deep breath and slow down. Speak in calmer, measured expressions. Although it may seem unusual to you, it will instantly give you peace and confidence.

you can always say no

Even if you’ve started a conversation and the person starts saying pretty weird things or invites you to continue the conversation elsewhere, you can always decline and go to your table or across the hall. Yes, just swiping left won’t work, but you don’t have to contact the person you don’t like.

knowing the limits

Most people go to the bar for a drink, but you should be careful with alcohol. He can very quickly get drunk, lose control, and then there will be no talk of an interesting acquaintance. We do not recommend that you abuse alcohol, but if you do, keep the situation under control, drink it in small sips, diluting a small amount of alcohol with plenty of juice and ice. Be sure to order some of the main courses for yourself so you don’t drink on an empty stomach. And most importantly, move more. Dancing will not only drive you away from the bar, it will also cheer you up and draw attention to yourself. And that’s what’s needed, isn’t it?